coping with hate sites and haters

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Okay, so I came across a website today that was highly insulting of people with asperger syndrome. It mocked websites made by people on the spectrum, mocked the neurodiversity movement (whether one is for that movement or not, its still rude to mock it), they misquoted Tony Attwood, made a mock list of diagnostic criteria for nt's that critized and poked fun at people with AS, ridiculed us for not having the ease they do with finding a profession, made statistical claims with no factually proven basis, claimed that people with AS are more likely to be abusive, claimed they wanted their "voices heard"- again mockery- regarding social workers not letting them go off on us when they have every right to go off on us for not understanding social cues, claimed we are treated to well, and...get this! They even went as far as to put images up that would specifically be disturbing/nightmarish to people on the autistic spectrum...and even made fun of an autobiography written by and author with AS and the author!

Anyone have any advice on how to shake this stuff out of my mind. I have a mind that takes photographs and like disturbing memories from the past, these things are now stuck in my head. I know there are cruel people out there who are below sincere, conscientious people like myself. Still, the stuff was so hurtful i got physical pain from seeing it. How do i put the pics out of my mind? I should add that i have PTSD. and that's probably why these things bother me so much...

That must really suck. Maybe try to find something to counterbalance it enough to give that garbage the disregard it deserves. There's too much hate in the world, and I think it gets to everyone occasionally.

Wow. i don't know what it was about your response, but that helped me feel way better. thx!

Was the site Encyclopedia Dramatica, by any chance? If so, I hate them too. I know exactly how you feel...

Indeed, sounds alot like Encyclopedia Dramatica. That is perhaps the most insulting and perverted place you will ever come across on contemporary Internet. In its defense, it is just over-the-top satire and doesn't seem to be based on any real organised ideology or interest group.

I stumbled upon Encyclopedia Dramatica through these other texts:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jason_Fortuny

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/08/03/magaz ... =permalink

They’re not focused on Asperger’s, but, together with Encyclopedia Dramatica, they were a real eye opener to me. It’s basically a defense of the law of the jungle, and a reminder that you can’t escape it. The sooner in life you come to terms with this fact, the better.

I have similiar tendency to have things that bother me stick with me and recur in my thoughts.

There are I suppose quite a few methods. These are just two I use. One is getting used to something and the other is avoiding certain things altogether. I generally decide which to use based on whether it is something I will run into in life or if it is in essence spurious and can be simply ignorred.

To get used to something (desensitize) requires exposing yourself to whatever it is in slowly increasing increments.

Avoidance is self explanatory mostly. But sometimes the thoughts will still come. So additionally I counter the undesirable mental image or thought with another one. I have used a few different ones, but currently use this one.

As soon as I detect the undesired thought I mentally imagine it changing into a baseball coming at me fast like a pitcher just pitched the ball and I am standing at the plate with my bat. Then I use that negative thought and response energy to mentally swing the bat with all my might and smack the ball out of sight. Then I think about whatever I was doing before interrupted by the negative image/thought, or think on something new. It only takes a second but often is enough to break the bad train of thought from starting.

If they're trolls, I wouldn't worry about them. If they are serious, I'd be trolling them. Either way, I wouldn't let it bother you. Maybe an aspie knocked over their ice cream cone when they were little. I dunno - some Freudian excuse. Either way, you'll always get folk like this online, no matter what group the hate is targeted towards.

I mean, I understand people getting tired of how much aspergers has become an internet fad, but the reaction is a bit disproportionate, don't you think?

@Toysoldier. great advice.


It wasn't encyclopedia dramatica. id rather even not put the name out there. dowm the road i may well have a blast trolling them. for now I'm just going to replace negative tboughts with positives.

"Maybe an aspie knocked over their ice-cream come"
Lmao

Is the website a forum? If it is, I'd probably troll them by making a collage of the most gross, disturbing, and horrifying images I could find on the internet and then post it there. The few unlucky haters that would unsuspectingly click on it before it got deleted would be emotionally and psychologically scarred for life. I can just picture them vomiting uncontrollably and crying like babies after seeing it. Luckily I have a strong tolerance for this type of stuff, so I'd probably be able to construct the collage without it disturbing me too much. I'd also only have to take it in one image at time while constructing it, whereas they'd have to take the whole thing in at once. This revenge scheme would be satisfying enough to replace the feelings of anger and hatred that I'd get when being reminded of the forum, with feelings of cheerfulness and perverse giggling.