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I literally cried all the way home last night (1 hr drive). I went to a concert by myself which was fine b/c I don't know many people who like concerts where I live and nobody who likes this particular style of music. Anyway, not the point. I was feeling good and after called my dad while walking to my car and he said my mother had asked my aunt about why I hadn't received an invite to the bridal shower for her soon-to-be daughter in law. Apparently it was not an oversight she legit didn't invite me though she claimed it was because I "live too far away." Now granted I do live 6 hrs away but I live<30 mins from the couple in queston (no I do not talk to them). And just 6 months ago she had me invite the girl in question to my sister-in-law's baby shower (also 6 hrs away, she did not come and no they do not talk either). I asked b/c I hate not including people.

I admit I didn't really want to go anyway but now I'm feeling very down about myself and feel like she didn't invite me b/c of me. I'm tempted to not go to their wedding and I already told my dad I'm not sending them anything. I mean, I wasn't invited so why should I send them gift?

I'm extremely self-conscious about not fitting in and feeling awkward around people and this situation did not help in the least. I'm also sort of mad at my parents for telling me this when I was feeling really happy and good.

Oh, did I mention this is happening over the 4th holiday? Yeah why would I possibly go home for that?

Firstly, I am just so sorry for the slight that you've endured. You're right to feel hurt - that's inconsiderate of them. I exactly know what you mean and I cannot count the times I've had similar slights. Remember that it hurts precisely because you are conscientious and caring (otherwise you wouldn't care). I've been purposefully 'uninvited' to events too.....ouch.

The only solace that I can offer is to know that it's not your fault. You've done your best (& they didn't). I know it's hard, but keep taking the high road. That is, please try to not feel bitter and keep treating them cordially. I know I always take stuff like this way too personally, mulling over why..... At some point, that just not fair to you.

Next, maybe try to make your very own friends. Those who are treat you just as nicely as you are with them. I'm sorry you cried. Anyway, I really hope you enjoyed the concert you went to alone (I've done that plenty of times myself). And who knows, maybe next time you'll meet someone there who likes your style of music and deserves to be your friend.