I feel SO damn guilty

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I got mad and scared someone and no matter what I do I can't make up for it. how do you just FORGET something like that?? I think I'll have to live with how bad I feel right now forever.

and I know I'm supposed to learn from mistakes but I keep making the same ones over and over because I get so angry that I can't think straight.

I do the same things Melody, it's hard to leave your anger behind, about a year ago, I was still cross at my ex for dumping me, well finding a new person before dumping me, so I wrote her a letter saying I forgave her for what she did to me, because the anger I was holding belonged to her, and since I had nothing more to do with her, I sent it to her in that e-mail, it made me not care about being abandoned by her as shes a selfish child, now if I can just find someone who wants me for me,

this lesson is a hard one, Melody, no wonder you have to take it over so many times.
the only way I learned how to help this, was to learn that BEFORE I got mad, I had to remember how I felt like you do now.

I have to remember how bad I felt after I got so mad BEFORE I got mad. When I feel that anger rising I have to remember the consequences of letting it all fly out all over someone, something anything.

When we say we are sorry the only way we can DEMONSTRATE to someone how remorseful we feel is to NEVER DO what we said we were sorry for again. How can anyone think we mean it if we say we are sorry for an action then allow ourselves to do to someone else?

so think, take a moment and think when you start feeling how you feel before you can't stop it.
go eat something, go for a walk, get stern with yourself and channel your anger into beating a pillow, screaming into a pillow, anything but blow up on someone.

no matter how much fun it is at the time!

Merle

this lesson is a hard one, Melody, no wonder you have to take it over so many times.
the only way I learned how to help this, was to learn that BEFORE I got mad, I had to remember how I felt like you do now.

I have to remember how bad I felt after I got so mad BEFORE I got mad. When I feel that anger rising I have to remember the consequences of letting it all fly out all over someone, something anything.

When we say we are sorry the only way we can DEMONSTRATE to someone how remorseful we feel is to NEVER DO what we said we were sorry for again. How can anyone think we mean it if we say we are sorry for an action then allow ourselves to do to someone else?

so think, take a moment and think when you start feeling how you feel before you can't stop it.
go eat something, go for a walk, get stern with yourself and channel your anger into beating a pillow, screaming into a pillow, anything but blow up on someone.

no matter how much fun it is at the time!

Merle

These avatar changes are confoozing me, lol...someone else has/had that one. Zombie, I believe or somesuch.

I have learned that it is a good idea, when something makes you mad, to take no action concerning the object of your anger for at least three hours. Give yourself time to think, and for saner voices to start filtering back into your head.

I think we all make terrible mistakes...But I found that you could still be friends with someone...The important thing is to truly apologize...and do your best not to make the same mistake...If they're understanding, you'll remain friends...if not, just understand their viewpoints and give them their space...every person has different tolerance levels, and show tolerance toward different things...

Depends on how scared they are. My angers could easily drive people away. Thing is, the only people able to get me mad enough tend to be either people I want nothing to do with, or those already addicted.

Graelwyn, mucushla, you also change your avatar. Granted, you do keep within your Celtic parameters, but change it, you do, dear.


Merle