My mother has gone psycho

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13 Feb 2018, 10:28 pm

I've had the police called on me when I lost it , I wasn't violent or threatening just a danger to myself. I was just kept in a cell till a mental health official came to interview me and they suggested a spell in the nut house.

The police are trained in situations like this in the UK but you still get a***hole police :roll:


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13 Feb 2018, 10:47 pm

^ It's more a case of harrassment, rather than she's a real danger to anyone.
Her threats are that she'll call the police, and the accusations keep getting wilder.
She's also saying that my SIL assaulted her, and that my brother threatened to bash her if she didn't give him money.
He's worried that he could lose his job because she keeps trying to contact him at work, and god knows what she's telling people.
Maybe they all believe her.


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13 Feb 2018, 10:54 pm

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My mother is threatening to call the police on my brother because she believes he's trying to kill her.
She's gone totally psycho, because she's the one who's leaving threatening voicemails on his phone almost every day threatening him, and sending letters to his work full of absolute rubbish about how he threatened to bash her, etc.
All untrue.
She's suffering from some kind of paranoid delusions.
My brother doesn't know what to do because he really doesn't want to call the police on her.
He asked me to speak to her but I doubt that would do any good either.
You can't reason with her, God knows we've all tried.
I don't know what to do.
Does anyone know if there is someone you can go to help out in a situation like this?


If your mother does not have a history of psychosis then this is likely a medical emergency and she needs to be taken to the hospital.



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13 Feb 2018, 10:59 pm

^ she's always been nuts.
This kind of thing has been going on for a long time.
As long as I've known her.

I wasn't aware of the voicemails until today, but she's always been the one who tries to stir up drama for no reason.


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14 Feb 2018, 3:32 am

In Victoria we have a CATT team, (Crisis Assessment and Treatment team) they used to be (Ten years ago) quite good.
I'm not sure what state you're in, but this is what I was able to dig up.


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If you need help now, call your state's mental health crisis line for immediate expert support. They will help you work out which services can best help. This could be the doctor, a hospital emergency department or a community mental health service. Sometimes, the CATT will be sent to you, wherever you are.

ACT - 1800 629 354 FREE– Mental Health Triage Service
NSW - 1800 011 511 FREE – Mental Health Line
NT - 1800 682 288 – Northern Territory Crisis Assessment Telephone Triage Service
QLD - 1300 MH CALL (1300 64 22 55) FREE - 24-hour specialist mental healthcare
SA - 13 14 65 FREE – Mental Health Triage Service
TAS - 1800 332 388 FREE – Mental Health Services Helpline
VIC - 1300 363 746 FREE – Psychiatric triage (information, assessment and referral) 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
WA - 1800 676 822 FREE – Mental Health Emergency Response Line


If they are not the people you need to call, they should, at the very least, be able to tell you who you do need to call.



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14 Feb 2018, 8:07 pm

She's sent a text message to my partner now saying terrible things about me. :cry:


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14 Feb 2018, 8:16 pm

What would happen if you called your mother, and confronted her about this?



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14 Feb 2018, 8:22 pm

That's probably what she wants, so she can turn it around in some way and make herself appear the victim.


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14 Feb 2018, 9:18 pm

I'm thinking it might "refocus" her. Maybe put a shock into her.

She's your mother. There must be some "mother" in her someplace.

I wish you weren't going through this crap with your mother.



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15 Feb 2018, 3:17 am

A restraining order can make it so she isn't allowed to contact you (or your brother) in any way, even through third parties.



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15 Feb 2018, 3:55 am

Raleigh wrote:
That's probably what she wants, so she can turn it around in some way and make herself appear the victim.


I wonder what's going on with her. There are people who tend to stab others, and then complain that they are bleeding, but if that has not been her pattern before, then something is causing her to behave differently now. Was the relationship different before? Or is this a worsening chapter in a history of troubled relating? I can understand that this must be very stressful for you, and you don't need the extra stress, you have enough of your own. I wonder what the context of her current behaviour is, and if or how it can be resolved.



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15 Feb 2018, 5:21 am

Called Lifeline today and that was totally gruelling but got a few things off my chest and they did give me a few suggestions, one of which was Relationships Australia, which I thought was more for marriage counselling, but they cater for all types of relationships, apparently.

It's more like the worsening chapter, B19. :(


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15 Feb 2018, 11:23 pm

Raleigh, I hope you can get the help you need. This is certainly not something you should need to deal with on your own. I hope everything works out. I'm sorry you're going through this!