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02 Nov 2007, 2:14 pm

The grief that I'm feeling over Starbuline's death is ten times stronger than the type that I've experienced with the demise of the Routemaster, two Decembers ago. I've been sleeping a lot more, and eating a bit less. I'm eating healthy snacks to make up for other nutrients that I might not be getting. I guess that means that I'm human, after all, and I'm not a freak. I know that I will be hungrier in a few days, so I don't worry about that part. I was crying, yesterday, thinking that I might have SAD. That wasn't the case. The case is that I've lost an Internet Friend, and that's the reason that I was upset. I've figured all this out, when I've put 1 and 1 together. I'm also wondering if I should keep looking for a job, or wait a few months, before I'm finished the mourning process.


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02 Nov 2007, 2:22 pm

tombstone moved to more fitting tread



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02 Nov 2007, 2:30 pm

It was such a shock to find out ....

She was such a colorful part of this community.

She is greatly missed ...


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02 Nov 2007, 2:46 pm

CockneyRebel I know what you mean with feeling odd with grief. My grandmother died recently but I don't really feel sad because I hardly knew her and only met her twice and can remember one of them. From all accounts she was very nice lady. I do feel weird because I could relate to her a little because she was reclusive in her later years and I was fairly reclusive at times. I froze on the telephone when talking to her, more than I normally would. I definitely think I would miss somebody I knew more who I could relate to that died.

The other thing is the 'correct' emotions, my father didn't cry when his father died. That doesn't mean he doesn't miss him. I have emotional blunting so have been having trouble with feeling sad, but I think I'm starting to come out of it a bit now, which is good. It can make it hard to know how you feel about someone. Emotional blunting is sort of like having a blocked nose. It can be a pain in the arse. I'm feeling slightly less emotionally groggy.

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