Do you ever get told to "make YOURSELF feel better"

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I complain to someone like my parents and they'll tell me "Don't complain to me, make YOURSELF feel better." Or something to that effect, anyway. But if I lack the inner stimulation to make myself feel better, I turn outwards to get stimulation to make myself feel better, like stimulation from them, and if they don't have it for me, that's okay, just direct me somewhere else or tell me to move on. I'm not stupid; I don't need to be told how to make myself feel better or that I need to make myself feel better. I need to just be given the supply of stimulation I lack in order to be able to do it.


Well, telling me to make myself feel better is okay, jsut don't say everyone can do it no matter what or say it in an authoritative or I-know-better way.

sometimes i just get told to "don't feel sad" when i am upset about something. its like they think i can turn my feelings on and off like a switch.

it sucks to get that kind of a response. does it really mean "why don't u do something about it instead of just sitting around complaining?" but if it really did mean that they would (or should) say it like that.

They say that because in the end, if you need others or things to make you feel happy it is because you lack something inside yourself, usually love.

I mean, like, if I was trapped in a hole and needed a ladder to get out of the hole but didn't have one, are you going to tell me "Make one" if I don't have any wood and nails or rope or whatever to make it with? Are you going to just tell me "You don't need wood or nails or rope, you just need to get yourself out of there" or "here's how to get yourself out of there". Stop insulting my intelligence, I know how to get out but I don't have the supplies to get me out! I have no wood and nails or rope!

trues, sometimes one just needs help to do something.

i get this: don't think about it!