How to get over my fear of rejection??

Post Reply New Topic

OK, I feel i'm doing better at looking at things and I want to meet someone with the hopes it will lead to a LTR and maybe marrige. I have a profile up on a dating site but everytime I look at someone else profile that intrests me, I don't reply because I feel that I'm just going to end up rejected again. I've been rejected so many times.

How can I get past that?

ask general questions and talk for a long time - 3-14 days before asking them on a date.

Plus the other thing is I try and think of something cleaver to say in the first email but all I can think of is "I can see from our profiles we like alot of the same things"

just don't ask her on a date until you have talked back and forth at least 7-10 times. that way u minimize your chance of rejection and u find out if she likes to watch horror movies so you can say - hey i wanna see Horrow Movie II - is that something u'd be interested in?

just ask people and get rejected, the more rejected one is, the less it stings.

its much harder to get over the fear of intimacy/comitment than rejection. if you dont have that fear just wait till someone does not reject you, then you will.

I think aspies were meant to be alone.

LOTUS!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

if u ask the girl on a date too soon you are killing all your chances. if she says yes and you barely know each other - she is probably too promiscuous, but if you get rejected, it will be too awkward to continue anything. if u take the time to get to know the person and get clues if they want to go out or where, then you won't get rejected as much and you won't feel like you were meant to be alone.

and what a beautiful woman like you is doing saying you were meant to be alone. not at all!! !! ! i don't see why you would not be a great partner, you just have to keep looking and chose wisely.

I agree that you should just relax and take it slow. I am in an LTR, but I still get terrified of potential friends rejecting me. I obsess on it. I don't know why anyone would want to be my friend. I wait for something bad to happen. So, I just do friendships SLOWLY now.

lol, I have a boyfriend now. trust me I do not make a great partner, i make a difficult, confusing and ambivalent partner lol.

catching a partner is only the begining of the troubles for AS people. Its very hard to stay in a relationship.

I did not mean propositioning people you did not know, I think the asking strangers for their number is not a wise move. But the OP said he was on dating sites and if one is on dating sites then one must write to people is no good just being a member and not contacting any other members.

Look no disrespect, but the chances of you or anyone getting rejected on Dating sites is high. You have to learn to suck it up and move on to the next profile.

I used to think that. But it does not sting any less. I'm 41, been trying and getting rejected by women since I was 16 or so. Think i'd be used to it.

Also, I don't even want to send the people I see an intial message because I know I will get hurt, my fear of rejection is that high.

I do understand how you feel, I found it particularly painful on dating sites when I had been talking with someone for a while and then they stopped writing.

I decided not to use dating sites because I found it very NT and required skills that were not my forte and was very stressful.

I met my boyfriend on here and I think finding people on forums is a better method as you can know them first before you approach them and know better if you are suited before you commit your feelings for hurt/rejection. I think being friends first really helps with anxiety, and being flirty friends stops any friend zone issues.

but its still not the end of the problem as its very hard/painful to get close to someone emotionally.