Dose life get better for aspies?

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Life gets better as you get older. In your adulthood, you won't get very much bullying because grown ups don't usually bully other adults and also work has a policy about harassment and respect. Everyone is to treat all their team members with respect so they are not going to put you down or make fun of you because their job is more important than losing it over putting down an aspie.

For some aspies life can get harder for them if they don't have the support they need from their family. I know an aspie who was kicked out of his mother's house when he was 19 because he didn't have a job and he also has difficulty getting one. I consulted him craigslist because it’s where I got my job and where I found a lot of them and applied for them. I also used the Sunday ads from The Orgonian. I told him he just has to look for one everyday by going out everyday applying for jobs just like I did for three weeks.


My life got easier when my family moved to Montana because I got the help I needed and education and the kids were nicer. They don’t tease kids who are different.

Life can always have its ups and downs. By the time you reach your 50s like I have, you learn to roll with the punches and take what life hands you, as you realize that there's not really much else you can do.

I will say that my childhood, especially my teen years, was pretty bad, but things got a lot better when I got into college and out on my own. I didn't have to worry about bullies or an abusive stepmother once I got into college, and when I got out, I hit Silicon Valley during the days when it was still fun (mostly during the late 70s to the late 80s). Among other things, I got to work for Atari (yes, that Atari!) before some idiotic executive succeeded in wrecking the company.

Since then, the increasing emphasis on the money has taken all the fun out of Silicon Valley, and I eventually wound up on disability. This has often been a difficult period for me, but at least I didn't end up on the streets like so many other refugees from Silicon Valley at the time. I also didn't get into the street drugs, which was the downfall of so many others. (Take this to heart: DON'T DO DRUGS!)

In the last few years, I've been going through a period of personal reflection, including cultivation of a degree of cynicism so that I don't get taken advantage of so quickly. I'm now looking at getting involved in vocational rehabilitation, with the aim of becoming independent. If I can get a handle on my mood swings, I should do OK. I do have some definite artistic and writing talents, and I have kept up on certain computer skills, so I might go into a cluster of activities centered around art. writing, graphic design, web page and site design, etc.

It may help somewhat that people as a whole seem to be finally getting tired of the whole attitude thing of the last twenty years, and that we can start treating each other as human beings again. Yes, I remember the upheavals and rebellion of the 60s, and I came of age during the anything-goes 70s; it seems like some aspects of the 60s are coming around all over again, as there is still a lot of unfinished business from that era. One advantage of living a while is that it does give you some perspective, simply because you get to experience enough changes.

In the end, you just have to roll with the punches. Being Aspie or bipolar (a lot of Aspies do seem to be bipolar as well) doesn't make it any easier, but perhaps it's in going through a hard life that you learn just how strong you really are. I know that it's hard to appreciate that viewpoint when you're still young; it seems to be something that we each have to learn for ourselves all over again.

I have friends and a life. I didn't have that, at the age of seventeen. I'm also surrounded by adults, and adults are more tolerant of individual differences.

I saw an improvement in my twenties, especially the later years, thirties left me unimpressed due to illness and many mistakes that I realize now were to do with my AS. Forties is much better, oh yes

Every case is unique; in my own (I'm forty-five now): socially, things never changed for the better.

I don't believe they ever will; because nothing happens without a reason, and there's just no rational reason in the world to believe that things will ever be different for me.

Yes there are many polite, friendly NT's around; there always were.

But none who would ever date me, and none (I suppose) who would've wanted me marrying their daughters.

I've long since gotten used to the idea that this is what life is always going to be for me.