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30 Oct 2011, 12:04 pm
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30 Oct 2011, 12:08 pm
Lecks wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Lecks wrote:
Actually if the child wasn't planned it is an accident, that's basically what "accidental pregnancy" means.
The pregnancy may have been an accident, but the child resulting is not. It's no accident when you decide to continue the pregnancy and keep the child.
This is going to turn into a battle of semantics and I don't think either of us wants to get into that. I'm putting down my Mantle of Conflict and brandishing my Feather of Tolerance.
Heh Yeah, it's a matter of perspective. Neither side is really wrong. That ^^ is just how I see my children.
30 Oct 2011, 12:41 pm
Taupey wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
MathGirl wrote:
Would like to know the reasons why. I tried looking stuff up but couldn't find clear answers.
FYI, the main reason why I'm asking this is because I want to understand if my parents had any expectations for me benefitting their lives in some way, as their child.
FYI, the main reason why I'm asking this is because I want to understand if my parents had any expectations for me benefitting their lives in some way, as their child.
You should ask your parents this, as they are the only ones that can tell you what they were thinking when they decided to have you.
Not many people would get a straight answer off their parents. No-one is going to say, 'you were an accident' unless they really resent their kids (some parents do).
I was actually planned and when I've asked my Mum she said, 'it's because I loved you dad very much and I wanted to make a baby with him' - but then, she would say that. She's not going to say, 'to satisfy my ego and yearnings after immortality'. I would laugh if she did say that, though.
30 Oct 2011, 12:47 pm
puddingmouse wrote:
Taupey wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
MathGirl wrote:
Would like to know the reasons why. I tried looking stuff up but couldn't find clear answers.
FYI, the main reason why I'm asking this is because I want to understand if my parents had any expectations for me benefitting their lives in some way, as their child.
FYI, the main reason why I'm asking this is because I want to understand if my parents had any expectations for me benefitting their lives in some way, as their child.
You should ask your parents this, as they are the only ones that can tell you what they were thinking when they decided to have you.
Not many people would get a straight answer off their parents. No-one is going to say, 'you were an accident' unless they really resent their kids (some parents do).
Depends on what you consider a straight answer. I certainly got one from my mom.
"We always meant to have lots of children, but I was using a condom when you were conceived." Apparently she meant to have us more than a year apart.
30 Oct 2011, 7:06 pm
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30 Oct 2011, 8:32 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AdamDZ wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
You should ask your parents this, as they are the only ones that can tell you what they were thinking when they decided to have you.
I was an accident
Something like 75% of people don't plan their first child. Many don't plan their 2nd, 3rd...Not planning the child doesn't make them an accident. I didn't plan my oldest, but I chose to continue the pregnancy and keep her once she was born. She was a surprise, not an accident.
My youngest was planned, though. He just came earlier than expected.
30 Oct 2011, 9:13 pm
puddingmouse wrote:
Not many people would get a straight answer off their parents. No-one is going to say, 'you were an accident' unless they really resent their kids (some parents do).
My mom often reffers to me as an accident, to which I reply that it must've been quite a shock when I popped out. Then we laugh.
Just saying, it's not always malicious.
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30 Oct 2011, 9:17 pm
People choose to have children, because every baby that's conceived is a gift from God. 
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