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Kijana
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25 Jul 2008, 11:28 pm

I think that my enjoyment in acting like a dog could be because of past bullying. Is it possible that I put myself in the mindset of a dog because dog's don't face the pains that some people have to face. Is it healthy for me to act like this ?



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26 Jul 2008, 10:24 pm

What I was wondering was, is it bad to me to act like this to deal with my past pains or is it healthy but obscure



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26 Jul 2008, 10:57 pm

That's a tough question... I would imagine from a societal viewpoint, it is sufficiently outside of norms to cause consternation and possibly indicate some abnormality. However, ultimately it comes down to you, how you feel about it, and how it impacts you, your life, and the people around you. It is certainly different... people react to stresses differently, and without knowing more specifically about your history, when the bullying occurred, what happened, when the new behavior started, etc... it would be foolish for me to suppose. If you're avoiding dealing with things by acting thusly, I would think that it may not be the most healthy response - but that's just my opinion. How do you feel about it?


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26 Jul 2008, 11:30 pm

makuranososhi wrote:
That's a tough question... I would imagine from a societal viewpoint, it is sufficiently outside of norms to cause consternation and possibly indicate some abnormality. However, ultimately it comes down to you, how you feel about it, and how it impacts you, your life, and the people around you. It is certainly different... people react to stresses differently, and without knowing more specifically about your history, when the bullying occurred, what happened, when the new behavior started, etc... it would be foolish for me to suppose. If you're avoiding dealing with things by acting thusly, I would think that it may not be the most healthy response - but that's just my opinion. How do you feel about it?


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It makes me very happy and I don't feel any stresses. I only do it when I'm either alone or with my girlfriend. She doesn't mind because she has a inner side that loves to take care of people and take charge of people, so it works perfectly. This new behavior only started recently and the bullying ended last year, although I recently somewhat go over it when I met my girlfriend a few months ago. My girlfriend and I, don't want to go public about this because others would find it strange, so it wouldn't affect the rest of my life.



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26 Jul 2008, 11:40 pm

In my mind, I think that is key. What you do in privacy is your business; it doesn't seem to be causing problems for you, although I would caution that perhaps not every girlfriend will be so understanding. It's not something that affects my opinion or thought of you. Given the proximity indicated, it could be remotely indicative of a causal relationship. I'm not even close to qualified to diagnose, though one could venture it is a submissive response, a stress relief through role-play, an atypical response to traumatic event, pre-existing predilection... the list could gone on and on, hypothetically - just depends on what type of mental topography the person observing has, in my mind. Happy is good - be happy.


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27 Jul 2008, 12:10 am

Thanks ^^ and hopefully my girlfriend and I will stay together until death do us part. Me and her really get along and love each other.

I mean how many other boys or girl would date a bisexual aspie who likes to act like a dog and has attention and other problems.



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27 Jul 2008, 12:12 am

Kijana wrote:
Thanks ^^ and hopefully my girlfriend and I will stay together until death do us part. Me and her really get along and love each other.

I mean how many other boys or girl would date a bisexual aspie who likes to act like a dog and has attention and other problems.


*laugh* You'd be surprised - it's just finding another one you'd like to be with. Best wishes to you both.


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27 Jul 2008, 10:02 pm

Does anyone else know if this is symptom of a condition:

I thrive on attention from people, like I'll try and talk to people just to get some attention. At certain times I need tons of attention from someone (like my girl friend) or I will feel lonely. Could it be because I went through a few years without a true friend that I need to constantly reassure myself with their attention on me.