How do I deal with the fact that 60% of people will hate me?

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OK, here's another way of putting it: Confucius said that it's not enough to be well-liked. You must be liked by the good and disliked by the bad. I am disliked or even hated by most people I know, to the point that there are people I know that joke about people taking out contracts on my life. I'm very happy with this setup. These are not very good people. What is the quality of a person who would judge you based on whether or not you're comfortable with shaking their hand over whether or not you're actually a good person?

I had a friend who pointed out that if I can get 3% of the people I meet to like me, I will have more fans than I'll know what to do with!

It's helped.

Dont care. Which to make sure noone misintepretates is not me not caring about your situtaion but my suggestion to you, don't care how they feel about you.

I concentrate on the social network that I do have, and I don't worry about the rest of the people around me.

I learned one important thing on that subject: give yourself the self acceptance that you wish others would give you. Dont wait for others to give you what you need from yourself, cause you will be a long time waiting

Jojo

I often feel as if 60% of people hate me, although these days I tend to attribute that more to MY distrust of people due to the abuse I was given when I was younger. In reality only like 5 people REALLY hate me and that's because I was bad to them!

You have obviously got a confidence problem like myself. I don't often like myself and I think people pick up on that and are rude about it.

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Okay thanks so much for the responses everyone. A lot of them really helped.

Hm, I think I'm better now. Sometimes I just get rejected by really rational people I really respect. Which was the cause of my recent anger spurt. But even the most rational individuals often discriminate, especially against people with combined asperger's, anxiety, add, high neuroticism, and low conscientiousness. Yeah, I don't know, I used to just go numb as a self-protecting mechanism. It probably works some of the time. Sometimes I think of myself in the 3rd person, sometimes I think that I'm putting up a facade for people to do whatever they want with. Sometimes this illusion works (even while it doesn't disrupt my other friendships).

I understand how you feel. I'm not even sure my own brother likes me or people that share similar political sensibilities. My wife definitely likes me though. A lot of it may just go back to body language. Sometimes I think certain NT's have less empathy than aspies, it just depends. The best advice I've heard is allow yourself to be hated.

Try not to think about it or mix with those kinds of people.

It's qulaty not quontay that matters.

That's how I deal with it anyway and I'm very happy (most of the time anyway)

Goodbye Till Next Time

I don't think about the packs of people, who hate me, for being the way, that I am, because they're a waste of precious time, that I can spend, on my hobbies, and special interests.

All but a tiny fraction of the world's population will live and die without ever knowing of my existence. Unless I get on TV, that's not going to change much. I prefer to see the world as a colossal box full of different people...it's up to me who I choose to make myself known to. If they don't signal that they like me, I just look elsewhere. I handle these "facts" by just getting on with the serious business of sifting and filtering, when I can be bothered to. Doesnt really depress me. I'm used to a world in which most people are on another wavelength.