I hate having Asperger's

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Hi Joe90,
Im 18 and I also have Aspergers and social phobia and I am having similar problems like yours. In past years, my mother and father were worrying about me, especially my mother. My big sister was always blaming me. Now they used to have a son with aspergers, so I dont argue with them too much.

If I were you I would do these things:
- First of all be more positive,
- If you have opportunity to rent a flat or something go away from your family.

And for social anxiety I am using these techniques:
- Try to act like a normal human when you enter a social area.
- Take a deep breathe when you feel too nervous.
- When you think other people are looking at you or laughing at you, firstly wait 3 seconds. If you still think they do, you can look at his/her face between 1 to 3 seconds. If he is not looking at you it's OK, turn your head to somewhere else. But if he is actually looking at you you can look at his face for another 3 seconds. Then turn your head to somewhere else. In total you can look at someone else's face for 6 seconds maximum.
- Don't walk too fast even if you are nervous. This way you will look like a normal human. But don't walk too slow as well.
- Wear thick clothes, scarf and cap for personal defense and privacy.

I hope it helps.

Stress causes cancer? Well big surprise because EVERYTHING causes cancer. My own family doesn't seem to have a history of it, though.

I hate that everyone else doesn't have Aspergers. Cannot get on board with anything you say sorry. The only friends I have in real life are all Aspies. Team Aspie for the win.

I feel you, Joe. Asperger's sucks. It's not responsible for your family's issues though. You are not responsible.

I also hate it when people give me a list of (possible) ASD people who have succeeded and are rich and happy. That does not change my mind about how I feel. Not everyone on the spectrum are exceptionally clever and can focus well and follow their dreams and succeed and become rich and famous. Some of us Aspies linger around average to below average IQ, don't really engage in special interests well, and are just eccentric but social. That's what I feel I am anyway. I have always been instinctively social from birth, and as a baby I developed typically, and as a young child I was naturally interested in other children and toys and parties, etc. So I do have most of the social instincts...but I am very eccentric, and socially awkward. I'm not nerdy and clever at all.

It seems to me you've given up on yourself and don't want to get better. Nobody is going to fix you.

I hate having it to. I want to be normal and I want to have friends. Having Asperger's has made it impossible to find any. Even on the internet it's impossible to find them. Also, I thought my artwork was good, I can't get a following, I'm assuming the Asperger's just turns people off. I post it on tumblr, not one like or reblog. Asperger's is a nightmare, plain and simple.

My mother died of cancer, one of her fears was me being on the Earth uncured and without her support. Now i don't have any support. I live in a rural area where I need a doctor to refer me to a psych and she won't do a thing. I want friends and it's too rural to find them, the internet is impossible to break into social circles unless you're already popular or know thousands of people. Just glad I have a fiancee she understands me, only one who loves me.

If stress actually caused cancer I'd be a walking tumour by now.

yeah, being disabled kinda sucks. but once you stop trying to be more than what you are, you can live within what you are able to do, and all the sudden the pressure of failure disappears and you can live as an abled person. i dont worry about the fact that i cant make eye contact and read body language because i don't socialize and i dont worry about not being able to do math or read because i quit school.

Don't worry yourselves - you aren't all going to get cancer just because you have stress in your life. It's just that people are always saying how stress can cause cancer, and I'm not sure where people get that from. So, IF it were true, then I would be the cause of my mum having cancer because I have caused her lots of stress over the years, since I was 4 years old. I wasn't an easy child to bring up.