how many other long term NEETs?

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i've almost reached 6 years clocked in as a NEET (not in education, employment, or training).
how do other autists do it? i now have health problems but would have remained NEET regardless almost certainly.
am i just low-functioning?
i've never had any direction in life and i am simply dysfunctional around people, even my family. my mother has simply left me to rot and doesn't seem to care at all.. maybe she WANTS me to remain a NEET permanently so i don't grow up, or more ominous yet, is using me for rent money (probably far-fetched).
i think i just accepted i didn't have a future and delved into escapism, to the point where there may be no return.

15 years, due to physical and mental health issues.

wow how does that feel? do you have any hope of getting out in the future? i'm 'just' 6 years in but i feel like i'm stuck here forever now

I'm happy. I've come to accept my limitations, and I enjoy my quiet, solitary existence.

What would you change, if you could?

my life in general, really.
ideally it would be more normal.. like having something of a social life and being more comfortable around people, a gf, a stable income and gaining experience, travelling, etc. but that seems like a pipe-dream at this point.

Are you guys talking about being a disabled person? As I was reading this, I became aware that that's where I am. I just graduated with my last degree, so I'm not in school. I'm not employed. My income is private disability and SSD. I'm a mom, so that keeps me busy.

You kind of have to ask yourself:

-What CAN I do?
-What do I WANT to do?

The first question gives you some options and then from that you can pick some things. It's important to have things you actually do, however. Otherwise you just feel bad, stuck. Ask any retired or disabled person and they can tell you.

There is a potential positive in that tendency, if you do a sort of judo with it:

If you can possibly escape into an activity that others will pay for, there is a potential route to a different state there.

Alternatively, if you escape into an interest that others share, you may be able to build up some kind of social network of friendships based on that.

There are a lot of variables in all that, but I did something similar with interests in computers and art long ago.

I bet you also keep your friendships to a minimum seeing as to the fact that the world is very judgemental of NEETs. I was a shut in for about 3 and a half years after I graduated high school so I know the feeling and I had people constantly tell me to kill myself and that I didn't deserve the air I breath and stuff.

What kind of a**h*le talks like that? Seriously? The few times people have messed with me I've been able to shut them down by asking them, in-person, what exactly their deal was. But in today's world you can't always do that. People can hide behind their computers or their friends and not live in reality.

I'm in high school right now, but I can see myself ending up as a NEET in the long run. Basically living as an invalid.

I'm finishing a degree that I've had to postpone and have a part time job. But I can't see anywhere I can go from here, except my very low paid job that doesn't have more hours available. I feel very stuck.

7 years now. I used to run my own business, but everything went catastrophic. I medicated myself with various substances for decades & when I stopped, life changed drastically. My income is now very low, I spend a lot of time on my own & while life isn't exactly what I envisaged, it could be worse. I have my home, my car and my computers. I do miss disposable income, though

I'm in high school as well. I don't see myself as a NEET though. I was thinking of moving somewhere, my first plan was Estonia, because they tend to be an antisocial society with centrist views. After I tried to learn Estonian, I gave up, even though about 45% of the people speak English. I was thinking Spain after, a nice small city (which they have plenty of), the language comes almost naturally to me, but I'm still not sure.

Anyway, don't give up hope. Perhaps things will change for the better. We all have a talent, I know many people dislike modern day society, but there's one good thing. As an autistic person, I assume you aren't into social media and those types of things, correct? You can observe and learn from the older generation, whilst most of the younger generation will be distracted by their smart-phones.

Well its mostly people on the internet that do that kinda thing anyway. No one has the balls to say that to you in person unless they are a complete psychopath.

I actually have been a NEET for the past decade or so . I am 33 yrs. old , and given that I do not have an automobile or drivers license , I have not been able to seek work any great distance from home . Also I had been for a time helping my mother tend to the needs of our family , namely her father , whom has dementia , and my one young cousin whom has reactive attachment disorder , and such . So I had been usefully busy with that , as a stay at home son . But recently I had been able to go back to school , and now am in the planning stage of starting my own home based business of doing such things as legal /medical transcription . Ultimately I would like to become a virtual legal assistant , but I suppose that a prospective employer will desire prior practical work experience . This is the catch 22 that we NEETs have tended to run into . For instance I myself had been denied employment at Dollar General , as I had lacked prior retail experience . Also I think that if a prospective employer picks up that you seem to have some sort developmental disorder , they will not be inclined to consider your job application as seriously . This has been my impression anyway .

Well I had a contract of employment for six months, but that ended in the beginning of June and I've been unemployed since then. However, I'm actively looking for a new job, so maybe I don't count as a NEET? At least, not a long term one.