How often do you think of embarrassing social moments?

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***I meant "How often do you think of embarrassing social moments?" in the poll

I've always had to deal with really embarrassing/awkward moments when it comes to socializing due to my ineptness (I never notice them until in retrospect). I tend to say not only things that people don't care about but also make a fool of myself for whatever reason (i.e. I can't take a hint to leave a group's conversation, my talking devolves into dumb ramblings, etc.)

And especially lately, I am constantly haunted by ALL the socially embarrassing moments of my life over and over (this goes back to as early as 4th grade which is a span of 16 years). I can't stop thinking about them!

It's to the point where I verbally tell myself to stop thinking about it which has become a disturbing habit in realization. I'm wondering if it's normal for AS people to go through that kind of haunted social embarrassment or if I should go see a psychiatrist to figure out why.

(I noticed another student with a different autism do the same thing when my TA told him to stop playing solitaire in front of my entire class; he murmured to himself "stupid" and quickly closed his laptop out of embarrassment)[i][u]

I also do this since I don't have a social life anymore. If I don't keep myself distracted with online activities or entertainment media, I constantly reminisce about my past, and I usually remember social events that were hurtful or horribly embarrassing for me. It's especially bad when I go to bed and try to sleep, and also right after I wake up. I open my eyes in the morning and round and round it goes, hurtful remarks and situations that I could have handled better and frowning faces that look at me as if I had centipedes crawling out of my nostrils. I try very hard to live in the present and stop thinking about the past, but I don't know how to do that. The past just won't me leave me alone. I wonder if this could be a symptom of PTSD

Might be AS symptom that is rarely mentioned because doctors can't see it. Same issue here.

Sounds to me like it'd be related to social anxiety, which is not a part of an ASD but is a common co-morbid.

Never.

I usually don't realize I did a social blunder until after and then I think about it for a long time. Sometimes I remember embarrassing social blunders that happened to me as a little girl and I can't get them out of my head for a long time.

I just about never get embarassed and if I do, I move on from it as soon as the situation is over. Learn and move forward. When there are things that maybe I should be embarassed about but I dont understand, I can get angry with the other persons reaction.

Less than once per day. They do come up occasionally though. It was hard for me to let it go but once I did I found it easier to socialise. Now I just have to deal with getting into arguments constantly.

I commit a fair number of blunders everyday, and after I figure out what I've done I tend to get stuck on the what-ifs and should-haves for a while. If I do something really awful, my mind not only repeats that one thing but other things I've done of the same magnitude. When this happens, I start getting worked up and end up shutting down for a while. It's a vicious cycle that just keeps on turning.

All too often for me, I think of many ASD symptoms or traits, this is one of the ones that gets me the worst.

Even at 45 I still say and do stupid stuff, although when I was younger it was much worse to be sure. Yesterday, I was up around where I grew up and minutes away from the first house I lived in as a child. My Dentist is up that way. Anyhow, for some reason I started thinking about a few colossal social screw ups and/or times I had made an a-hole of myself. Getting yelled, feeling embarrassed, and then paranoid.

No matter how bad I want to forget, at least 2-3 times a day something from when I was growing up or something when I was in my 20s pops in my mind, it feels like I am living it all over again. I truly believe some of the reason I tend to be paranoid is that I spent at least the first part of my life pretty much getting shouted at or told I was wrong on a regular basis.

Other than going to work, I don't have much of a life these days. Friends have faded away and one I had to cut off years ago. So, these thoughts seem to enter my mind more as time has gone on, especially in the last 3-4 years. Part of it is, I realize now how bad I made myself look but some of it is, I'm just tired and am to the point where no matter how hard I try, I'll never get it right.

I don't often make social mistakes, but when I do I get very stressed because embarrassment is an emotion I feel very deeply and it can affect my life.

I still often think of stupid cringy things I've said that happened at least over two decades ago. Of course, my evil brain loves to replay them whenever I try to go to sleep. And then I started making moaning or whimpering noises to block out the thoughts.

Almost but not quite never. And if I try to think of one now I can't. There haven't been many of them, though I might still be living in blissful ignorance because I didn't reconstruct myself completely when I found I'd got ASD, I was too set in my ways and I decided that a lot of ASD-related things I'd done that didn't go down very well were the fault of society for being so uptight about things that don't really matter, or the stuff was just a bit unfortunate. So I'm kind of shameless and unembarrassable, but I'm sure there are a few memories in there somewhere that I'd feel embarrassed about if I could recall them at will. I don't beat myself up a lot, I don't think it's healthy.

I do. And it's part of my tendency to dwell on the bad things I do in life instead of the good things. I'm working with a therapist on trying to accentuate the positives in my life but at my age (60) it's not easy to change a mindset that's been ingrained in me for so long.

I don't.

I have an ego instead that likes to spin scenarios done instead.

Things are not really about embarrassment, humiliation or shame.
And it's not even social either, regardless if it's social or not.

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I do a lot of dicking around so I suppose I do quite often

It's not really enough to stop me though is it