Do you think people with AS have less drive to compete?

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Competitive no, but ambitious yes.

I only have drive to succeed when I care about something. Otherwise, I don't have any drive.

I am pretty competitive at most things, to the point of it being a flaw.

If I see that someone else wants to win I try to let them. Find being involved in competition extremely distasteful but I love watching it in the sporting context.

BS.

Some people like me with AS live to win.

Without a win, I will feel severely disappointed. I hate losing man!

I am HIGHLY competitive. I can be ruthless when competing. I suppose that's why some believe I'm a cerebral narcissist. :p If it is a test of intelligence, I will not rest until I win.

I'm not competitive over sports, but that's just because I'm not interested in them. I can get pretty competitive over my own hobbies though (esp. drawing)

If I’m going to do something seriously, I want to be the best at it. I don’t do it for praise from others. I think it’s more about proving something to myself.

It depends on the activity. I enjoy competitive games. I don't enjoy competition related to career/profession. I hate having to sell myself as it always feels like I'm being forced to be another BSer. The world is so full of BS it disgusts me.

Son, when you participate in sporting events, it's not whether you win or lose: it's how drunk you get

Kids, you tried your best and you failed miserably. The lesson is, never try.

Quotes from Homer Simpson.

Come, come. Have you ever witnessed a gaggled of Computer Nerds one-upping each other? Of course Aspies can and do compete.

ruveyn

When I hear competitive I think sports, but yes, I always manage to win at board games, no matter what. So when I think about it, I'm rather competitive that way. I can't stand to lose.

I don't feel the need to compete with anybody, at all. I'm a lover, not a fighter.

I'm competitive,

But I fail at it.

I doubt anybody really knows how competitive I feel on the inside.

But I also feel like I'm too far behind in a lot of things that I wish I was better at to show off or just because it would be fun to win.

Ironically that gets me depressed and decreases my motivation to try to get better at these things.

I really get nervous when people are noticing. I try to find a way to practice things alone but it's not always possible. I only want people to see once I've perfected it.

I'm not competitive at all. (But see the confession at the end.) I only want to be perfect. Of course, being perfect, I have to be better than everyone else! But the idea of competing directly with anyone is anathema to me. As well as having no interest in competition, I'm hopeless at it. If I find I'm in competition, I give in. I only understand cooperation. On the other hand, I barely understand other people, and they barely understand me, so I'm hopeless at cooperation, too! About the only thing I understand is having a common interest, and a common interest in reaching the truth about the matter of common interest. In competition, truth is the first casualty. I'm obsessively intellectual, but hopeless at intellectual competition, such as argument (especially if it is seen as "debate"), or chess (in which I have barely ever even glimpsed what it is to want to attack and destroy the enemy). I do like to show that I'm clever, and I hate being made to look stupid, but making someone else look stupid is not fun. Even in physical sports I have no competitive instinct: I used to like to play squash, but I always thought of it as a friendly knockaround. I would probably have greatly enjoyed playing tennis, in a similar spirit, but I somehow never played, probably just because I was so isolated, and didn't know anyone else who played. I regret that. I don't like watching sports, with the single exception of tennis. I don't like seeing anyone do badly; I want everyone to be at their best. However, I am sneakily competitive by proxy, in that, once I have decided that someone is The Best, like Bjorn Borg or Roger Federer, I want them always to win. So I must have a competitive instinct sneakily hidden away in my mind somewhere. What I do know is that it is important to keep the idea of perfection alive. I have slowly become better at accepting my own and other people's imperfections, but I have not found any compensating way of remaining in touch with the idea of perfection, in the way that I used to be able to do through mathematics, and many people do through religion. This is probably the root of my continuing sneaky competitiveness. If I were in touch with perfection, I would probably really not be competitive at all, instead of just pretending not to be.