Why I dont like telling people i have it

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As a parent of an Aspie, I found it really hard NOT to tell people. I needed to vent, I needed to discuss and churn around the facts and consequences. It never occurred to me that he wouldn't want people to know.

Now that we've talked about it, I tend to ask him if I can discuss it with a certain person. He is far more obliging having accepted his diagnosis and he now embraces his gift.

Nerddette

I've told a select group of people I think I can trust only (about 6 so far). I'm still deeply uncomfortable with the thought of most people knowing about it for all the reasons mentioned above...... One bloke I told though simply refuses to believe me - he reckons I'm really just an "extreme bloke" instead, whatever one of those is

I've told about 6 people so far. 2 of them don't believe I have it and claim I'm "normal", 3 were like "ok", and 1 predicted that I had it. In fact, she was the one who asked me if I had Asperger's.

I read in other posts that we should tell everyone, so they can be more educated about people with ASDs, but then some people say that's a bad idea coz it can lead to more discrimination and ostracism/bullying. But isn't the bad treatment of people with ASDs due to ignorance of some NTs in the first place?

no, i'm very secretive about it. i hadn't told my first part-time job, even though i would have likely received some additional accommodations--the last thing i want is for kids my age to perceive me as "the special girl" or "ret*d" or whathaveyou. i WAS fired due to complications attributed to AS/social anxiety, yet i don't regret letting them in on my condition. simply put i'm too concerned about being judged. i've not told any of my friends, either.

I don't tell people about mine because I have heard horror stories about it. People can treat you more like a child or talk to you in a cutsie voice, underestimate you, think you are using it as an excuse, take you less seriously and your opinions or views are invalid to them, and of course people can blame things I do on my condition, same as for my opinions or point of views. People might see me more as a label than as me. I have told a very few people and they thought nothing of it.
Lot of people don't know what it is anyway even though more people know about it.

Plus I heard some people make fun of you even more when they find out you have it because they just don't care. I saw someone making a post here about it in The Haven. Even telling people you have it doesn't always make you understood more.

I only tell best friends.

Sometimes when I tell people I have aspergers they will laugh...
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I've found I should only tell people at a last resort, like when they ask if something is wrong with me, or if they start talking about me.

People who know anything about it know that people who have Aspergers have average to above average intelligence.

Of course, unless your regular teen has a project on it, they won't have researched that pesky little fact.

Humour works best for me. I've learned how to make fun of myself. Yes, I'm "weird" "crazy" "ridiculous" "obsessive compulsive" "a control freak" "a brat" "mouthy" "obsessed" "reckless" "ret*d" "messed up" "eccentric" "weird" and I'm also "smart" "smart ass" "intelligent" "sarcastic" "witty" "outrageous" "blunt" "honest" "unbelievable" and "hilarious".

If you can recognize yourself and just be up front about it, make a joke of it, other people will laugh WITH you instead of laughing AT you.

Which I personally prefer. lol