Are you comfortable with talking to out-going people?

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They are more annoying and tiring than introverted people.
Strangely enough, though, my best friend is very gregarious and extroverted, but she is... unusual.

I'm not comfortable at all because they always want me to talk to them & participate in the conversation & I never know what to do or what to say. I do like being an observer of other's people's conversations, though. It's really fun lol, & I learn a lot. Of course, I'm rarely around people, so that doesn't happen often.

No. My friend has an extroverted friend and sometimes I can't bare to be in the same room as her. Always has a comment for everything.

I actually prefer talking to out-going people because they are never short of things to talk about. With quiet people I am at a loss for conversation topics but with out-going people they always manage to keep the conversation going...from one subject to another subject, and sometimes all I have to do is sit there and listen.

That kind of outgoing people I'm happy to talk to.


They do initiate conversations. The difference is that they only initiate conversations where they see some benefit to themselves to having those conversations. Usually they see no benefit to conversing with "the quiet kid".

I strongly dislike talking to that kind of outgoing person.

I really enjoy talking to shy people. In my experience, shy people do not have enough experience with conversation to be duplicitous.

I think it depends on the person but...

I have noticed that most people aren't really as outgoing as they'd like to think they are. Where I work there are a couple of women who would probably both consider themselves as outgoing but the reality is that they are not. If I talk to them which is rare the conversation only lasts about five minutes if that and is very uncomfortable unless they are drunk.

But people that are actually outgoing I find a breath of fresh air because I never feel like I have to perform. I'm a pretty quiet person for the most part so if you put me in a room with another quiet person its like the 5th circle of hell. No fun!! It's funny though that people assume that you'd get on well with someone as "shy" as yourself but in my case it just doesn't work.

One of nicest people that I've ever known was outgoing and she was a pleasure to be friends with. I wish we were still in contact because she was awesome.

Maybe it depends on the definition of out-going.
If it means they 'go out' I do not.
If it means they are extroverted, then I do not know because I cannot tell a difference unless someone has told me there is a difference.

I don't think the term means that they 'go out'..

It means that they are someone that is comfortable talking to anyone, someone that can strike up a conversation without babbling or needing constant affirmation, someone that doesn't just talk to you because they need something from you. I get the needing something from me conversations quite often and it just sucks.

My in-laws are a perfect example of the needing something conversations because it seems that the only times they actually talk to me is when they want a favour done... Blah, Blah, Blah.. Can you do us an advert? Blah, Blah, Blah.. Can you feed the cat?? They suck!

That does not make sense.
Why even call it outgoing if they do not go out?
Why else would you talk?
People always talk to get something.
Apparently, people have ulterior motives.
I do not talk to people when I do not want anything from them.

OK.. Maybe it didn't make sense and that's cool, I am not the best at verbalising. They would have to go out generally to talk to people face to face.. So yes they do go out but then so do most people but most people don't feel at ease talking to strangers.



I agree with you here for the most part but I don't believe that everyone who talks to you wants something as such (maybe they do? Who knows??). I am the same as you in the sense that I often don't talk to people unless i want something but then maybe I could be a little extroverted myself because I will often talk to someone if I think they might need my help in some way.

ursaminor: outgoing is just a synonym to extroverted.

Yes. My cousin is one of the most outgoing and charismatic people you could ever meet, and when I'm around him, I can 'be myself'. He just has an air about him that makes you feel comfortable and welcome. Plus, with outgoing and chatty people you don't have to contribute much to the conversation.

I hate being around quiet people, as I am quiet myself it can lead to very uncomfortable silences and lack of understanding.

I tend to be drawn to people who are the exact opposite of me.