Darkword wrote:
I believe I do as well, one of the troubles my psych had in diagnosing me was finding out how my abnormal levels of empathy with all the people around me could be reconciled with my AS. I think its because I grew up around unstable people and it was more or less something I had to develop to get by.
I can relate to this. It's called hypervigilance, or getting the hell out of the way, quick-like.
I have "abnormal" levels of empathy with the underdog (-cat, -mouse, -duck, etc). And underdog people. I think what I have experienced, I relate with.
but learning about the aspie stuff has been really hard to take in for me in some ways because what I thought was empathy was really alot of times learned codependency. And I had to ask myself why if I was good at discerning feeling or empathy why I was getting blindsided so much. I have a huge desire to empathize and heal and caretake in others the wounds I have experienced in myself and my life. But that desire made me a target of borderline/narcissists/sociopaths over and over, it's like they get a read on me from a mile away.
Psychology has really been helpful to me in understanding what has happened once it is done, and over, and I am surrounded by the rubble. But knowing what is going on while it is happening, forget it. unless their is evidence, which means I work people like a private investigator, I am hypervigilant about what clues they do leave because it's a given I am going to miss the really obvious stuff other people pick up on.
22 Apr 2010, 7:09 pm
