Better at socializing with girls?

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I always found it easier to interact with girls. Even in 1st grade, I remember all the girls befriending me, helping me with school work. Even later in life, it is the same, I can sit and talk with a girl no problem, have hours of conversation, yet it does not have to be/lead to a relationship or anything. It is hard for me to relate to guys, especially since my interests are different - computers, sci-fi, hobby stuff. Where most guys like sports and watching sports.

Me minus whatever number you can think of.

Ever one else puls whatever number you can think of.

Girls I work with that's one thing I work with them and I don't see really think of them as a sister.

Congratulations big guy. You're one of the girls now.

I think I've always found it easier to get along with females as acquaintances, probably because with the opposite sex there are no expectations of common interests and you get more slack for not being on the same wavelength. However, I've repeatedly found that friendships with other males are better because females tend not to take 'friendship' with me seriously, it's just a notch over being polite to me, whereas guys tend to mean it more, to the point that I've become wary of seeking friendship with women.

In physical life I have only one good male friend.

I generally find it easier to get along with girls though. I honestly have no clue why that could be. I have wondered about it a lot.

I grew up in a family with both a mother and father, as well as 3 brothers, yet I still find it easier for me to socialize with girls (I'm a male). I'm not sure exactly why that is.

I am female and I find it easier to socialise with males.

girls are easier to get on with because they are less competitive than males.
males always question me in a way that makes me think they want to dump their ego on top of me, and i will not let them convince me that they are better than i am, and then it leads to confrontation.
men smell. men have gruff voices that irritate me.
men have self images that are completely irrelevant to me.
men are hairy and i do not like them to sit on my chairs unless they are wearing long trousers.
they sweat and they have that sporty musky yuck about them.

girls are fair minded and they have pleasant voices. they do not smell and they do not try to compete with me.
i am dumb tonight and i am talking out of my id.

I wouldn't say I was as comfy with women as the Original Poster is, but I do tend to do better socially with women than with men. I was never a superstud but once I'd ironed out a few flaws in my teenage social ineptitude, I always somehow managed to find partners, and they always lasted quite a long time even though I didn't begin to suspect I had AS till last year. It's nearly always been me who has ended the relationships, and looking back I'm astonished at how many of them would have been OK about continuing with me if I hadn't quit. Living with them or being with them a lot has always proved too much of a strain for me eventually (apart from my current wife who left me after I was diagnosed but still wants to keep the marriage going ). I've never lived with a guy, and don't like the idea of doing so.

I've got male and female friends, and I try to be reasonably non-sexist about them, but deepdown I have to admit that I put a higher value on the women. Men generally seem less friendly towards me for some reason, they seem more competitive, brash and insensitive. I've always been comfortable with most of the gay men I've known, though I'm not gay myself, so perhaps it's my loathing for macho traits that's at the root of my preferences. On the other hand I'm not keen on women who are too girly or over-sexualised, even though having them around has been known to boost my perceived status......that can be nice but I don't have a lot of interest in trying to look like an alpha-male - a female colleague once saw me with a (conventionally) pretty woman I was dating, and told me that she'd had to re-think her idea of me because she'd hitherto felt sorry for me - I was furious that she was judging me on such stupid criteria.

Strangely I didn't relate well to my mother when I was a child, and much preferred my dad's company......he was a nice caring guy on the whole, while fact mum was by far the more aggressive of the two. In spite of her personality she did most of the stereotypical female things - knitting, cooking, women's magazines, sending birthday cards, always wore skirts and a bit of makeup (though she never looked over-sexualised), no interest in male activities, didn't have the shoes to walk through a muddy field, never tried to fathom anything technical.

Don't know what the explanation is.......maybe it's because I can sit through a Catherine Cookson movie without throwing up? Seriously, as long as the friendship hasn't become sexual AND got into conflicts and disharmony, I tend to be quite good at listening and being supportive and helpful.....can't think what the hell else they see in me. And it's by no means universal - I think most women, like most men, see me as an insignificant nobody. But the ones who do give me a chance usually grow quite fond of me, and without them my life would barely have been worth living.

"if that's really you in the avatar pic"


yes its me. I chose it, because I saw little expression in my eyes, and there is essentially me holding a smiling mask up to my face.
I felt that in a way it represents the mask I put on when I meet new people I don't know.

I have a HORRIBLE time gettng along with girls, and I don't know what to do about it....I don't get along very well with most guys for that matter, but almost all my friends are guys...I am not on speaking terms with a lot of females for various reasons....pretty much most of the ones in my peer group...

i will say only two things

odepius complex

nature vs nurture

I actually get on much better with boys.
Girls are crap.
In town yesterday I was in a clothes shop and there was this group of 14-year-old girls and I found their way of talking funny and ridiculous, one goes "shall I get this jumperrrrr or is a waste of money giiiiiirls?" in this whiney voice, and the others were all "oooh I don't know I think it'll look nice etc etc" One thing that really gets on my tits is when girls say something to their mates then add "girls" or "girlieesss" at the end. There's no need for it, just say what you want to say, you don't see boys going "should I get this DVD booooooys?" in that whiney pathetic voice do you?