Is living on your own scary?

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Maybe you could find some good responsible roommates and share a place. Becareful they are people you can trust. I have all kinds of bad roommate stories. My best roommates have been other's with AS/Autism, even though I didn't realise that we all are Aspergians at the time. But I'm sure there are wonderful NT's who would make excellent roommates.

You also might qualify for assistance with renting your own place to live. I don't know what country you're living in so I'm not certain about this. You could look into it and see if you do.

Living on ur own is the only way to live.

Living with others is like living in eternal bondage.

(Unless we are talking about living with one's concubines etc.)

This will sound really strange! Anyway, I don't want to live alone- and I don't. I just want a roommate or some other people around so I know that their presence is there. I don't want to have to speak to them all the time or anything and I would get irritated if they wanted to come to my room for a "chat."

But when I am completely alone in a house my mind takes over and starts thinking all sorts of crazy things and I frighten myself.

Right now I live with 1 roommate. We are friends but both independent so it works out well.

The only thing you really HAVE to do is to pay your bills. As long as that gets done, no-one will bother you!

All it takes is a bit of organisational skills. Put bills and other important (tax, registrations) papers in a folder and keep it organised. I sometimes loose papers myself and get really upset by it because it f***s up my sense of control over things, but a folder and some simple rules in my life takes care of it.

As for eating, if you make a good buck, you can go out and eat. Want to eat at KFC 365 days a year? Knock yourself out! Want someone to clean your house? That can be arranged too. And laundry services has been around since the dawn of civilisation.

To sum up: Living alone is awesome.

I have lived on my own now for 14 years, my stress levels have reduced considerably.
I had shared flats or houses with other people for 10 years before but found that made me anxious.

I now worry about becoming old and what might happen if I ended up in a residential home amongst elderly NTs. That is a long way off but I do think about it.

My disadvantages to living alone:

1. Managing bills and such can be a big burden, and being the sole person responsible for keeping my apartment clean and tidy leaves me with very little free time outside of work.

2. Getting sick and having no one to look after you can be depressing, and quite scary if there's also no family or anyone to check in on you. I've struggled through some very long nights when having to endure nasty fevers alone.

3. It's possible to feel lonely at the same time as not wanting to interact with people, and that tends to get me down a lot. I often feel a need to go out for walks to stop myself feeling too cut off and isolated.

Those things aside, I'm still pretty content. When I first ended up living alone I started to feel like I was becoming myself again, suddenly getting all the solitude I needed, and I found myself getting back into my creative interests with no one around to distract me. But now, a year or so later, I find myself dearly wishing I had a significant other to share my apartment with. The thought of living alone for the rest of my life doesn't appeal at all.

The thought is slightly unnerving, but I'd welcome the challenge if/when the time comes.

I don't believe living in an apartment house with mostly elderly NT's would be the right place for you to live either. They really should have apartment buildings for AS/ASD. I read a definition in this old government dictionary for autism.

Au•tism(skip pronunciation)n. 1. Acceptance of fantasy rather than reality: abnormal subjectivity. 2. A form of childhood schizophrenia marked by acting out and withdrawal. Webster's II new Riverside university dictionary. 1984

Hmm... there are times I'm really happy, and times I am not. When I'm not, it's usually because while I'm on my own, I need a lot of help from others as well, still, and feel very reliant/dependent on them.... I am, so of course I would feel that way. But with that comes a feeling like I owe them-like I'm still living under somebody else's rules, etc. I don't like that part.

I do like that I can make whatever I want for dinner. I can plan what I want to do and when without having to worry about everyone else ('cept the kiddos of course). It definitely has it's perks, and I dunno how it would be if you are *truly* on your own (as in with bills and everything).

The main downside is that my house is always a mess!! !! I'm completely unorganized and tend to put chores off a lot... so it really does look sloppy in here most of the time.

No, it's not scary. To me. It's nice.

If your executive function is up to paying your bills (and maintaining the job you'll need to have the money to do it), buying and preparing your own meals etc, and cleaning up after yourself, living alone is great.

I live alone most of the time, sinth the 15th of June, and I must say I like it. I am yet living in a group home house but there is a log of things I can do it lonely. Once in two weeks I have a chat with my group home assistant and then I can discuss things, problems that I met in the last 2 weeks. Maybe she has some comments on what I am doing.

There is a plan to gradually live alone. With my group home assistant I have made a list of things that I think I have to buy when I have an own home. It is a big list. She will help me to check the items on the list. Those checked items will be bought later on. These are little items such as cups, spoons, forks, glasses, mob, tissues, little things that I need anyway.

There are also big things, such as chairs, bank, table, TV set, radio, but these are things that we will look into, later. The priority to buy them is just lower than the little things I mentioned before.

I haven't really been truly independent but during weeks spent alone at home I'm not scared or creeped out or anything. Freedom certainly is nice though.