talking on the telephone

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I have difficulties answering the phone or making phone calls sometimes, but the real problem is my mother. She is not diagnosed with AS or other ASD; just ADD. As she ages, she almost completely refuses to talk on the phone and it is becoming a safety issue. She lives over an hour away and isolates herself; sometimes I have to drive there just to make sure she is alright. How can I get her to keep her phone turned on and use it?

This for one part, the fact that I tend to stutter and/or interrupt a lot is the other part.
I "hate" calling someone and this "hate" increases the older I become. I prefer a medium, which is non-verbal, for example e-mails. This is one reason why my debugger/psychologist gave me her mail address so I don't have to call her. As another example: Since other family members live far away, we call them for birthdays to congratulate them - I hate this, it is almost like a fear and I feel uncomfortable doing so. I just wish we could send them a mail. I even think Skype is more comfortable than phoning for some reason.

Talking on the telephone especially to family has been full of long pauses and generally having nothing to say, It's painfull.

I hate phones. I use my smartphone primarily for texting and the Internet. I think I hate talking to people on the phone because:

(a) I sometimes can't understand people because they talk too fast
(b) The person on the other end wants a response NOW
(c) It's often unscripted
(d) Unless it's someone I know very well, I don't know what to talk about
(e) The noise of the phone ringing is rudely intrusive, as is the phone call itself.

Very few people understand why I dislike the phone so much. I wish using phones could be as little a deal to me as it is to them. I am very thankful that I was born in the Internet age, otherwise my phone phobia would be a terrible handicap.

I don't like talking on the phone, either. I feel that my expressive language doesn't work as well when I talk on the phone, and so I often procrastinate on this.

I dislike phones, texts and i hate skype/live video chatting with a passion.
I covered up the camera hole on my laptop. People can actually remotely hack others and spy on them through the little camera eyes built into laptops. It may sound paranoid, yet true.
I had a fit when my gfs mother sent these cameras to skype or whatever its called. Thankfully it only happened once and never again.
It feels like such an invasion of privacy.

Phones, well if it is a very good friend or my mother i am fine on the phone, anyone else i don't answer it.
Texting i don't like at all, it's a fumble and time consuming to press tiny buttons. It's absurd to type one word messages back and forth.
I'll stay old fashioned.

I don't like talking on the phone or on video chat because I'm self-conscious about EVERYTHING. I prefer text communication, like e-mail and instant message.