Should great people be judged on their private lives?

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I've never stolen anything, but surely nobody would say yes when asked this?

It would be different if they asked about criminal records; those can be verified.

But yes, of course, if someone is dumb enough to say "yeah, I stole a shop's worth of stationary at my last job" I would not hire them. That's not a 'personal' issue. It's a criminal one.

You would be more likely to get a truthful answer if you simply asked if they've been ARRESTED for theft.

This is definitely one major thing I hate about the media. They peek into private property and take boob shots of teens, and then make her out to be some slut. It's one of the many reasons I decided against going into my passion... acting. I would seriously have panic attacks if I had people invading my property to take pictures of me like that.

And when "nobody" ever says yes, do you think they really believe it?

Wouldn't an answer of "yes" and an explanation demonstrate honesty?

Right. That's why they should not be asking questions like these or any other questions that verge into the "personal" arena, such as sexuality, political and religious views, whether you plan to get married/divorced or have children, etc.

I form judgements of people based on a lot of things - both personal and private. Yes, it is true that there are two sides to every story (someone referenced cheating not being an issue if the politician who cheated had not taken a "stance" on it, so to speak).
Honestly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My personal take on cheating is that it's wrong - either fix the relationship that your in or get out of it before you start another. Simple.
What I'm trying to say here is that everyone judges others based on their own personal standards to some extent - and yes, you can certainly still see the "good" that someone does outside of the behaviors/actions that you don't agree with. However, in my experience, every time that I find out something about that someone has done that I consider to be against my own morals, they loose "status" with me. For example - if one of my friends were caught stealing, I might still be friends with them (after all, they are a good friend, and haven't stolen anything of mine, right?), but I'd probably wonder or in my mind be thinking - "yeah, she hasn't stolen anything of mine......yet?".

Yes, but I'm slowly learning that NT people don't want an honest answer when they ask certain things. Even when they do, they don't react well when it's not what they want to hear.

It would want to be an exceedingly good explanation. And no, admission of guilt does not make you non-guilty and admitting dishonesty doesn't make you an honest individual.

Of course I don't believe that everyone who denies stealing is being honest either. The question is badly designed; a 'yes' answer would be tantamout to throwing the job opportunity away (for the majority of cases) and if they've bothered to show up for interview, it's a given that they want the job.

Last edited by Lene on 13 Jul 2010, 7:21 pm, edited 1 time in total.

For the most part I think you're right. I've answered both ways on those tests though, and gotten the same results. I've played the stupid "game" and given them all the "right" answers, and been hired, but I've also given blatantly honest answers, and after being questioned on the "questionable" answers (which they use a stupid computer to identify, by the way), been hired as well.

It's almost as if they don't care whether you can just play the game or be honest. As long as you can do one or the other, you're hired.

People are weird.

I heard Martin Luther King Jr was into some really weird stuff. I do not want to believe it though. So, I'd like to view him on what he did and not what his personal life was about.