Assertiveness and teaching people how to treat you.

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people do not need to be taught how to treat me.
i have an "air" about me i think (in real life), and people can subconsciously tell that they will not benefit from treating me in a way that is not acceptable to me.

no one treats me badly, and as a result no one suffers as a consequence.

people do not really like me, but they treat me well because they want to attract my approval. others benefit from my approval of them.

if i am happy with a person, then they will be happy with my contribution to their affairs.

all the people i deal with would never think to be less than accommodating to me, and therefore they will do well in association with me.

The trouble comes when the other person doesn't want to learn how they should be treating me.

Thats when I show them the door and say to them that there is no place for them in my life.

Lol teach people...not

The only thing you can do to turn this around is to stop making assumptions and tell the truth.

It covers everything. You tell the truth what you will do, want to do, participate in, and enjoy. You do not assume you cannot tell the truth because it will hurt someone's feelings. Assertive people do not walk around doing things they don't enjoy or getting wrapped up too much in annoying stuff because they just opt out.

If you feel like noone considers your feelings then they probably don't. It is up to you to consider your own feelings and let them be known. Don't you get tired of being surrounded by people who run the show. Run your life. Be sweet, be nice, be soft and clear and you won't believe how shocked they will be. The benefits of this is you will TEACH YOURSELF how to treat yourself and stop being a pawn in other people's chess games.