Are there people with whom you don't have problems talking?

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I'm okay with talking to people about my age who I know well and who seem like they actually want to hear what I have to say. As in, they ask me questions and they give me space and time to answer and don't expect me to just spontaneously share things. But that doesn't happen very often. Generally, I just do a lot of listening.

In "real" life I know a few people who I am comfortable with, and comfortable to the point that I can sit in silence and experience a positive feeling from their presence. They are people who I feel I could discuss anything, and with whom I don't feel the need to censor myself or take exceptional care in how I speak.

Outside "real" life, when I was in psychiatric hospital almost everyone was easy to be with. But part of that may be that they have experienced a lot of social issues that make it easy to relate.

Very interesting that some opinions match in many cases, for example older people, but is not the same for everyone.

Usually I feel people more intelligent (for example bright students) and less judgmental (less neurotic?) the easier ones to talk, though it's very subjective to eval someone else neurosis level. Like someone said, they are less competitive. And about older people, as we get older we become less judgmental.

As much as I can I try to use this information as feedback to me when interacting with people, I mean, being less judgmental, accepting the way of others as much as I can. There was some cases where I focused so much on this that I had very good results. For example an eccentric guy at work (not aspie) that most people rejected. I tried to show him (very subtly off course) that I comprehended that's nothing wrong with his eccentricity and I knew he didn't want to offend anyone. It was very rewarding. He came to respect me much more, we are not close friends but talk each other in msn sometimes like friends.

Well it may be pretty obvious that acceptance is a 2 way street, but I think sometimes we have to put some effort to do things NTs use to do automatically - or fake it automatically.

I am very comfortable talking to my two close friends, which is probably why they are the only individuals I truly miss and like as friends by the way.

I am also comfortable with young children, I can talk to them, play to their games and create another world for them, I am less of an introvert with kids.

i like to talk to people who do not say anything back to me.

when i start talking, i do not want to be interrupted by interjections.

if someone stops me from saying what i am saying with an interjection, i get derailed, and i lose interest immediately.

people sometimes say that do not talk, but i announce. i will say the stock of words i have welled up in my brain, and when they are depleted, the conversation is over.

There are, but I really can't pick out a common thread between them - age, race, gender, etc. The only thing they seem to have in common is that they are all "uncommon" people in some way - artistic, very smart, etc, etc.

And, I HAVE to say this, it's driving me nuts! The title of the thread is terrible English - it should be "Are there people WITH whom you don't have problems talking? < / grammarnazi> Sorry.

Some people talk to me like I'm an idiot.
Other people treat me like I'm Einstein.
Definitely easier to talk to the ones who think I'm Einstein.

Yes. I have had a few friends and only years after I befriend them do I find out that they are aspies. Or in other cases the 50 question Autism Test going around recently, friends who are not Aspies/Autistic, and who score higher then the general public do I seem to be able to relate to eaisly. My best friend scored a 24 and the person who I like scored a 42. (No neither has Asperger's I am sure of it)

I don't have problems talking with my Mom, because she's used to me and she knows my behaviours.
I can talk with other people, but even if they treat me nice, I can't feel naturally and comfortable. There's something what blocks me.

I can talk to my mum for hours. She has no problem with my kind of speaking and she understands me.
I also have a best friend I can talk about almost everything, but he is a very special person ( NT but very special) and he accepts me how I am. But sometimes I say things I could slap me for even to him or my mum, but they tell me just to be myself.

i once knew an aspie woman who i could communicate with. than suddenly she changed totally and i could understand her anymore.

she used an awful lot of ritalin, and got "poisened" because of it. she can't tolerate it anymore... maybe it damaged her?