What are your autistic peeves?

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My peeves-

Having selective mutism as part of my AS- I just can't get the words out that I want to say, then I get angry with myself that I can't manage to communicate, especially when somone needs to understand something. Then ending up in floods of angry tears.

Being high functioning and having 25 years practice at disguising AS and so people aren't aware of how much I'm struggling.

Being totally incapable of asking for help of any sort.

Having to spend this weekend in the house as it's getting on for 30 degrees outside and I can't cope at all with heat.



But on the other hand...I got to spend Friday laying on the floor looking at clouds, drawing them and writing poetry about them, and talking about them non-stop to a captive audience of 8-year-olds!! ! (Yes, I'm obsessed with clouds!)

My biggest peeve is people in customer service asking how my day is going. They don't care about how I am, they're asking because their supervisor requires them to. That and people trying to sell me crap in malls. Not only are you invading my space, you're trying to convince me to spend money on something I will never use. I hate sales, and I hate salesman.(incidentally, saleswomen are MUCH worse. They try and seduce you into buying. You know what a person who uses their sexuality to make money is called? A prostitute.)

This. I hate all phony formalities. It's always awkward because I never know what to say, since I can't be honest and say I feel like crap and I can't fake a happy reply.



Everybody who has a job is a prostitute. You just sell your soul in some jobs instead of your sexuality.

I can identify with this. This happened to me more often in college than now. People wanted me to go parties and dancing. They didn't understand why that was not my idea of fun. If I did go with them, they were disappointed that I didn't know how to interact with other people, and if I didn't go, they were disappointed and didn't understand why I would rather stay home or spend time with someone I already know.

In recent years, I've had supervisors try to "help" me get over my fear of public speaking by forcing me to give presentations. They seem to believe the more I practice, the less anxious I will feel about it. They don't understand I cannot handle being the center of attention and having all eyes on me. This is the opposite of what I feel comfortable with, which is not calling attention to myself in an attempt to blend in. Every single time, I have an anxiety attack with heart pounding, sweating, nausea, knees shaking, etc., and yet they continue to push me to do this.

Yeah my mom just walks passed them and ignores them like they aren't there... XD Or other times she'll be like, "Not interested" and we just keep walking... its kind of funny. XD Other times its upsetting because they look at me and I get a little upset by it because I don't like being approached by people I don't know...

Well just don't ever do what I did and join a sketch comedy show. You'll be surrounded by this kind of attitude and behavior 24/7.

Speaking of which one of my major peeves are when NTs prefer laughing at everything and not taking anything seriously and when they do take things seriously it is over the most ridiculous things.

Then again, there's no greater peeve than NT hypocrisy. Oh wells.

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One of my peeves is NT insistence on verbalizing. I'll walk up to a counter, say in a dollar-type store, and lay my item(s) on it while pulling out my money. The clerk will look at me and ask "Are you ready?" and then look down at the item(s). Because of not seeing my nod (for an already unnecessary question), the clerk repeats the question WHILE NOT MAKING ANY MOVE TOWARDS PICKING UP THE ITEM(S) TO SCAN IT/THEM. This and so many other examples...it's almost as if something isn't said aloud, then it isn't real. (Like the classic example of someone asking 'oh, did you hurt yourself' while the blood gushes). Aaaaaaaaaargh!

So, was this an "autistic peeve" (as per the original question) or was it an NT peeve? I'm an autist who sometimes has peeves only at NT's....

I hate when NTs are like that... its like, "oh, your crying?" and its like, "NO IDIOT I'M LAUGHING, CAN'T YOU TELL?" It angers me too because its like, here they are ridiculing us for being 'out of the ordinary' and not functioning like them... when they are the ones who suffer from idiocy. I mean my NTs friends hardly ever do this... but in public, an NT will see me wearing my black sweatshirt in the sweltering heat and ask me, "Aren't you hot?". I mean while I hate the feeling of being sweaty, I wear hoodies to to hide my arms and my head under the head... because sometimes I just don't like showing my skin.

They always ask you the obvious questions and then they wonder why we take things a different way because they said something we didn't understand... when it was something they understand perfectly.

I also hate how people wave to me, strangers and they ask me how I am doing... its like, "uhhh..." I just freeze up. It's a pet peeve because I hate when people try to start a conversation with me and I'm sitting there with a dumb look on my face... that's why I end up being so attached to my parents... because I always rely on them to talk for me so I don't have to deal with the NT chit chat that makes me so nervous.