People standing/sitting near you.

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Yeah, it could very well be that I feel this way because I’m worried people will touch me. I also don’t like to hear people swallow or even eat at all, especially if they slurp!

i used to be very ucomfortable with people touching me, or getting up too close. i remember some girl giving me a hug when i was 13 adn me wrestling my way out immediately. i had issues with that up until i gues...less than half a year ago, just by trying to be more phisical (briefly placing an arm over someones shoulder and so..). now if anything im too phisical in my contact. i like it, i can still have a small boundry to cross, but phisical contact just gives me the feeling like theres indeed someone close, and im not alone in a world of i dont know, robots or something. and it can calm me. i love a hug...
somehow i allways did but...

i dont know bout you guys, but i prefere living in a materialistic world shared with other people, to solely dwelling in my horrific mind.

I don't like to have people physically close to me much of the time. What really panics me is if they want to put their hands on me, especially if they don't warn me first. If they adjust my clothes, or fiddle with my hair, or try to stroke my arm, etc. I feel squirmy as though an insect was crawling on me.

I feel very uncomfortable when people stand close behind me, in supermarket check-outs for example, especially when I sense they are trying to 'hurry me along' if you know what I mean.

I don't think I've got a very good sense of my own body space, I quite often bump into doorways. Once I tried to walk through a barrier at a railway station, expecting it to open. It didn't

Yeah I get what you’re saying, it’s just that I feel so weird/bad when people touch me. I’d like to be closer to people I just… can’t really I guess.

I get claustrophobic in crowds. I can’t walk the malls on weekends because people mill about aimlessly and don’t correctly transmit their intentions.

[quote="rainbird"]i can't stand going in aisles with other people either. for me other people's presence is an itchy electrical feeling. I believe it is my own bio-electric field standing out around my body at about 36 inches all directions. If someone elses energy cuts through it i feel rage and anxiety, like i was touched or jostled, even though no one actually touched me at all. quote]

Yes! Yes! This is exactly how i feel! I feel as though other people's electrical fields impinge painfully on me. i also get very bothered by people acting loud and manic around me sometimes, as though their energy is physically affecting mine. And it makes me very anxious and angry! I hate being pointed at as well, i find it physically painful, as eye contact can be sometimes! This is just one of the reasons I avoid supermarkets. I'm screaming 'get out of my space!! !' inside my head all the time!

i dont like peopel standing too close to me either, it is distracting but post diagnosis i can toleratre it when i am calm..when i go aspie thou i flip out and move suddenly and this surprises people who are standing to close to me anyway.

If I have something I'm interested in and really need to focus on it, I am almost immune to distractions like this. If someone bumps into me, however, they just might get a defensive response completely out of proportion from the 'offense' of bumping into me.

If I'm just waiting my turn or something and there's nothing to keep my attention away from the personal space invasion, I can get very impatient and it causes quite a bit of stress to try to contain that emotion. Standing in line is like this, I really hate it.

I see people in crowds all touching each other and rubbing past each other. I really don't want to to play that alien game either. It's not the hideous orchestra of disgusting smells either, because I'm usually doing an internal stim, grinding my teeth or sucking them dry or something, to alleviate or at least block most of that. I don't want to give up the control I try to keep over my own body. If you're in a crowd like that, no one is in control of anything.

I kind of feel like this to, only not really with the energy thing, just like if people are manic it’s like an invasion of my mind or something. My dad is a manic-depressive and when he is in a manic cycle I can’t stand to be around him even if he’s not doing anything wrong, I just avoid him until he is calmer. I wish I didn’t feel this way I feel like i'm really mean when I fell like this about my dad.

I know its rude. but I don't like it when large people are near me.

I can't bear people closer to me than about three feet, and the further the way they are, the better. Being able to smell someone or hear them breathing or having them touch me makes me feel a combination of sick and irrationally angry. A couple of weeks ago, a colleague at work came to my office, and not only stood extremely close to me while talking, but put her hand on my shoulder. I instantly jumped and shrugged her off, and it was so obvious I'd reacted badly that she apologized.

I also don't like people walking behind me. I'll stop and let them go past. It's even worse if it's women with high-heeled shoes on; that sharp 'click, click, click' along the pavement is so annoying it makes me want to push nails through my eardrums. I'd really rather not have someone sitting in the seat directly behind me on a bus either. I can just about tolerate it if they're quiet. If they're talking nineteen to the dozen, or eating, or rustling newspapers or things in their bag, I have to get up and move.

The worst hell is when someone plunks themself down in the same chair as you to get cozy.

Not wanting to be touched is a great way to help control the human population

I diffently do not like to be touched and I do not like to have people crowded around me at all.
I have a serious personal space issue . If people get to close then I move or if I can not do that then I tell them to back up. I become very aggiatated and aggressive if my personal space is violate and I can not rectify it immediatly. This goes for relatives or stranges. I do not like to get to close to people because they take that as an invitation to touch or talk to me. I do not want to be engaged with someone that I do not know at close range. I am ok if I am a few feet away and I do not have to maintain eye contact.

I think the sensitivity goes beyond physical space (touching), for me. If somebody slams a car door or honks to get their friend out of the house, for example, when I'm standing right there, I get mad, because they are acting as though I'm invisible. It's the same with physical touching on the bus or in line, I feel treated as though I'm invisible. This goes for anyone staring off into space in my direction, loud talking, cars not yielding to me as a pedestrian, even seeing another person's personal space violated makes me uncomfortable and I'm not sure whether to "rescue" them.

This morning while riding BART, a man lightly elbowed me in the left thigh. I didn't like it and it seemed so slight that I was going to ignore it but decided instead to ask him politely if he could please watch his elbow. I neglected to point out that he had touched me which would probably have helped me address my real anxiety (that somebody touched me) but I only made it halfway to the truth because I felt guilty about even bringing it up.
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