Aversion to Good-Looking People

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I don't like good-looking people who are conscious of their good looks and who looks down on you because they look good and you don't.

And there are a lot of good-lookers who are not aware of it and quite laidback.

My sister is good-looking, I mean really good-looking, and she knows it. She lives for it. She told me that she has to look perfect before she leaves the house, cause it's a competition out there. She compares herself to every girl she meets. I don't like her type at all, and it's awfull cause she's my sister. And her type looks down upon my type.

I guess I don't like narcistic people.

I answered "Don't know", because I'm pretty good looking myself, better than the average NT male, I think.

But I hate narcissists.

Litigious, I have seen your picture, and I have to say you are pretty good looking. Not bad at all.

Many people with aspergers are good looking in fact. From the picture I have seen on this site.

She changed my life in good, but I wasn't able to make the best of it as I should have done. I must also say that while I liked her for what she was, for her character, she could not have imagined what mess was hidden behind my looks.

Last edited by paolo on 15 Oct 2006, 11:28 am, edited 2 times in total.

Oh, thank you!



Yes. Many of the girls are beautiful, and many of the guys are handsome, including admin Alex.

Don't forget it's the better looking people who'd be more inclined to post.

But that's probably the case on all forums.

It's just interesting that even very intelligent aspies that undoubtedly look good still have a very hard time to get relationships and/or sex, while ugly looking NT morons get laid 100 times easier.

The road to succes in this world is to know how to be social.

I know, I know, but I wish I didn't know that. Doesn't help me to know more than it helps a color blind to know that green is the color of grass.

Hmmn, when I was much more introverted I think a lot of women enjoyed the "silent traveller" effect I portrayed and I got way too much action, so much in fact that I couldn't handle sex for a while.

Lately I've been myself and its true, I've been alone a lot more often, BUT the times I have connected with the opposing sex have been wonderful indeed, though terrifying.

i vote no because i have been befriended by allot of good looking ppl at school and work and they turned out to be lovely people inside and out. The ones that were mean were ugly or average looking. I don't know how to make friends with people i mean i try but fail. But these ppl were the ones that where friendly towards me. Its not because i'm that good looking myself either.

I'm not as intimidated by goodlooking people as I am by people who have great style. There is a woman in my apartment complex who has great style. She doesn't spend a lot of money on clothes from what I can see, but she certainly has an eye for what looks great. I wouldn't want to hang out with her for that reason. She seems a nice person though.

I need to work on my self esteem in that area.

Good-looking people have never been a problem for me. It's mostly been ugly people who have picked on me (possibly due to their own self-esteem problems). Good-looking people have generally been too busy pursuing their own popularity to give me any attention, and the few good-looking people who have given me attention have seemed nice enough.

i dont pay much atention to them, i dont want them to notic me, not that they would anyway, but, yeah...

With the exception of people at work and a few other structured settings, which includes escorts, I'm very cautious around attractive people (by NT standards, this is). I'm still trying to figure out why, yet I still can't. What is it about good-looking people, male or female, that makes me get all suspicious and tense the second they come within my field of vision? Consciously, I know that they're just people who happen to look good, yet I can't handle being around them. It's like I see them as a threat or something. Needless to say, when I turned down the best-looking stripper in a strip club, she was utterly shocked, as other men were clamoring for her.

This is such a strange concept,"attractive".I am always nervous around people.I am more nervous around people I find attractive,intelligent,cool,funny, because it makes me more selfconcous about my own perceptions of my inadiquacies.The physical "attraction" trait is probably the least of these because I value the other traits in people more.

I agree with the concept of being more attracted to "real" vs "plastic" people.People who seem very "put-together" are confusing to me.If they make me nervous ,I think its because they have a very "polished" social mask that makes it difficult to read them.I have had attractive people "befriend" me.I think a lot of them are "outsiders" inspite of their appearance.They may have had the physical attraction but not the social skills of the "cool group".So,they are ostricized by that group and by the less attractive people who are intimidated or jelouse of their looks.I am not above that feeling myself,especially when I have had a boyfriend that I was afraid I would "lose" to a more attractive friend.