roccoslife wrote:
The incident with the shopkeeper I mentioned earlier for example, the guy in front of me the shopkeeper had been all smiles with etc, but when he came to me it looked as if he really didnt want me in his shop. No smiles, just give me your money and leave so I dont have to deal with seeing you type stuff, didnt even want to look at me. It always seems thats the kind of reation I get from people for some reason. It could just be my social anxiety making me paranoid though I spose.
No I'd go with your instincts. I watch out for that sort of thing too. I notice people around me can be all small talk and friendly chatter but when it's my turn it's like they've already written me off based on appearances as someone they shouldn't even bother trying to talk to. That might be true to some extent but sometimes I'm just in this weird mood and I'm actually able to fluke small talk. I had to catch a cab last night and I thought I'd start with a classic, the weather, and the next thing you know I got to where we were going and I'd actually had a nice talk with the driver. I can see why people like it, I just wish I could do it all the time.
roccoslife wrote:
As for standing up for myself, the only time Ive ever done that was on holiday a few years back when I caught the family we were holidaying with giggling at me behind my back, and it ruined the whole holiday afterwards, so I tend to shy away from it now, confrontation has never been my forte anyway.
I relate to this big time. After several meltdowns I've realised I don't matter enough to cause the kind of bewilderment people have to endure when I finally lose my temper and suddenly get really angry and don't know how to stop for a while so if I'm not worth defending I just withdraw now from situations where I might be attacked or dragged into someone else's argument. The people I'm around now are much calmer and more reasonable than my family and former friends and acquaintances.
15 Jun 2012, 1:29 am
