Is it so wrong that I enjoy talking about Aspergers?

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There is no right or wrong in talking about your Asperger's Syndrome as it shows your open about the condition however don't talk too much about it as it becomes very one sided also try and talk different subjects in between.

It what context do you know these aspies? Do you know these aspies in person where they actually see your social interactions. If you just know them online, they can't really judge with any legitamacy. Its not really bad for your subject of interest to be about aspergers. Like any other overly obsessive aspie subject, you just have to allow other people to talk about what there interested in not dominate the conversation about the same thing over and over again. Its sorta a give and take thing aspies in general have trouble with.



No nothing wrong, similar to what I said above. If you want to talk about aspergers all day long then feel free to post on here as much as you like. Places like wrongplanet are for "us" as aspies to focus on our aspergers. But in general, people outside of designed aspie communities dont really want to talk about aspergers all the time. Just learn to focus all your aspergers energy in aspie forums where its socially approprite. On the outside you can still talk about aspergers just dont dominate the conversation about it. Leave plenty of room for other topics as well.

Maybe Aspergers is your special interest

Aspie about Aspergers?
Aspergersception...

Seriously though, I've always had a pet theory that part of the reason we have a bad rap is that the people who tell everyone they have aspergers are the ones who are especially interested in Aspergers, and as such come off as self-absorbed (even though they might not be.)

I talk about it often with my wife and to her it seems I often hide behind it, giving that as a reason for how I am and cannot change cause it's my nature.

I would go for a diagnosis, but it would not realy help me in daily life. And in Germany there is only one diagnistic center in the southwest bavaria for adults.

So too much away, expensive and would not realy help me, no benefit with state/ community offices or our health system. And my health insurance would not pay a cent for me getting a diagnosis!

Others will not know, I dont tell others about it. Only a few knows it but no one at my work place! It would be used against me, diminish the chance to stay in that company. I am a temp IT Systemadministrator and hope to stay and getting hired by the company who has lent me.

Aspergers is almost unknown in Germany with much wrong infos in most heads. We are being seen as ret*d rainman autists rather than mostly high intelligent specialist humans with just a slightly different brain wireing and social issues.
So I fear bout getting bullied where I work and loosing the job again for being different, no matter how good my work is.

I got diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome before I turned 25. I am 10 days away from turning 27 and I am still learning about it. I find it fascinating. My whole life I wondered what was wrong with me and when I got told I have AS I was happy. Nothing is 'wrong' with me. I'm just different and I see that as a great thing.

I think there is nothing wrong with your behavior at all. I know when I was diagnosed and the year leading up to it, all I could do was talk about Asperger's and how it manifested in me. It's worn off as my interests have changed, as it will for you, or maybe you will some day become a great contributor to the knowledge base of autism itself. Don't let anyone hold you back! I mean if you're literally driving people nuts about it, well, maybe tone it down for them, but don't they talk about their interests to you in the same way? I'd get bored to death if someone just talked about anime to me all the time. (no offense to anime people)

I talk about aspergers or autism almost every day with my wife, I can’t help it, she has got use to it. I have some skills my mind does everyday like sensing the time when a clock in the room reaches the hour, example 17.00. 18.00. Etc. Something my mind has been doing since I was 12 years old. So it’s hard for me to get away from, there is always something there to remind me.

I talk about AS a LOT to people as well. It is indeed one of my special interests, and I see nothing wrong with it.

In my opinion, not only do I enjoy learning about it, I also feel as though it can help the AS community. Everyone is very keen for "Autism/Asperger Awareness", but I think it is more powerful to be highly educated in it and to not only educate others one by one, but to show them a real life example of a person with it, rather than just campaigns that say the same old facts and present the word "autism" or "Asperger's" to everyone.
As for talking to others who have AS themselves who don't like hearing about it... Sounds like a competition to talk about each person's special interest there, is true Aspie style (You mentioned that the other Aspies prefer to talk about THEIR own special interests). Maybe you just need to find other Aspies who enjoy talking about AS, just as Aspies who like talking about Anime need to find other people who like talking about Anime ?

My general special interest is the human mind and body and behaviour, with certain specialised areas amongst that, including AS. It is hard to find others who enjoy talking about this topic compared with topics like Anime, but they are out there.

Thank you =) Wow that is truly amazing, that a group of aspies can get together and talk about AS it just makes me feel a whole lot better. =)

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I also appologise to anyone I haven't answered to yet. I am not used to such a big response =) Thank you to everyone though!!

I got talking with another AS friend of mine on this topic, he helped me reveal that I do actually have other focus subjects, just old ones, ones that he is pretty sure i could use to jazz up a conversation =)

Yeah, I know these aspies in person, but we mainly speak online due to distance. i went to school with 2 of them, and have met the other 2 outside of school. one has no problem with it but the other 3 do.... Its almost like theyre ashamed of it... thats how it feels. cause they were diagnosed so late in life. i dont know, thats just how it feels.

Hello My dear friend from FB. =) Yes I understand how non understanding Germany is about Autism. My ex boyfriend, Robert, almost blew a fuse when I suggested to him our now 3 year old Son, may have Autism, when I was living in Starnberg. This was before i was aware of my own AS. I hate how they instutionalise people over there still, who are different. I am very glad I am in Australia now. While I miss Germany for a lot of reasons, mainly, my son is there, still as I was considered a bad Parent because i was different, I am glad I am in a better understanding community than i was in. Though obviously theyre not as understanding as I first thought they were here. c'est la vie....

yes I am an anime person myself, but even I can get bored to death by it as a subject...

I think its always good to strike a balance when it comes to conversation topics, likewise i also think its fine to talk about autism as long you don't over do it, its always pretty complicated where the line is sometimes if you ask me, i generally refrain from talking about my autism *might as well call it autism now instead of pdd-nos* because the whole stigma thing around it xD

The hard thing is reminding yourself not to talk about it, if it affects your relationship with others.

I have also made AS my special interest. I spend hours and hours researching things to do with it on the computer every day. But I don't talk about it much to my family, because my husband uses it against me and emphasises it as a deficit, and my children (who are both going through the assessment process) accuse me of talking about it all the time if I give it the slightest mention. There is no-one else I could talk to, so I have to internalise it.