Girl freaked out for no reason!! !!

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Maybe they were just in a hurry to get somewhere...

It is common for people with any sort of invisible disorder to feel self-conscious when experiencing odd reactions from other people. I get offended all the time, and I know it is all irrational but I still can't stop believing my own irrational thoughts, even though I admit that I do.

Like that time when I got 2 girls laughing at me randomly in the middle of a supermarket, when I know I wasn't doing anything unusual at all, I was just there to get shopping like everyone else, I wasn't acting odd or insane or freaky or anything even close. I didn't even notice these girls were there until I felt one of them staring at me in the corner of my eye, and I just subconsciously turned my head only to realise that they WERE both staring at me and one of them kind of grinned and then when they went they both turned round to look at me again. This now got my attention and started up all the self-conscious thoughts in my head, making me wallow in self-pity even more and wanting to commit suicide.

But then I have learnt that some odd reactions from strangers may look so obvious that it was aimed at you in what ever way you look at it, but really there is an explanation that they clearly weren't reacting to you at all. I remember a few weeks ago I was walking along with my friend down an alley way between two houses, and there was a woman in front of us walking on her own. My friend had a crush on a man that lived in one of the houses next to the alley, and as we were walking along we were grinning at each other and whispering a bit about this cute man, and when we reached the end of the alley the woman turned right and just glanced at us as she did so, and we kind of caught her eye too, still grinning. She might have thought we were grinning and whispering about her the whole time, since to her it might have looked obvious that it was aimed at her, but rightfully we didn't even notice her walking in front of us. We were just too absorbed in our own lives.

So I'm not going to say something highly discouraging like ''oh maybe you do odd things without realising it'', because hearing that is off-putting, and I know you are probably self-aware enough if you noticed something like this and felt self-conscious about it afterwards. The situation was most likely to be similar to the one above what I explained.

There is a possibility that they ran for a totally different reason, but I understand when something like that happens, it's really unpleasant.

Some women (not necessarily teenagers) are very self-conscious and seem to think all men would want them. Maybe that girl might have been one of them.

I've had a few occasions with girls of a certain age too, which have made me feel really uncomfortable. This goes back to my own teenage years. I went into a cafe and sat down beside a table where two girls were sitting. I didn't know the girls at all. One of them starting kicking at the back of my chair, causing me to be thrown forward. My Mum was concerned, so we drank our tea quickly and started to walk out. As we passed them, one of them said, 'I'd love to give that B****** a kicking'. At that, my Mum lunged at her, grabbed her by the collar and gave her a right talking to. My Mum doesn't hold back any and the girl was shaking. My Mum was so glad that she was with me and thought about what might have happened, had I been there on my own or with a friend. I was a complete innocent and had done nothing to them. I had hardly glanced at them, before I sat down, with my back to them, so it can't have been caused by how I had looked at them.

Recently, I sat down in a train, my daughter opposite me. We were sitting beside a girl each, who appeared to be friends. They were looking at us oddly and kind of sniggering. Then they started to send text messages to one another. On receiving a text, they'd have another look at us. I kind of think their texts were about the fashion unconscious Mum in an anorak and her little tomboy, also dressed for the weather. They were wearing very thin clothes and shivering. That's just weird, but happens.

There's no need to concern youreslf with the actions of others being in any way connected to your actions. You know you're not a threat, it's just them being silly/immature or not related to you at all, it just appeared that way.

Teenage girls are weird as they test and learn things and hormones rage.
It had absolutely nothing to do with you, or to do with being an Aspie.

I was a nice kid til about 12, then I was a bit standard NT weird, then fairly sorted again at 14. I did some pretty strange things with friends 12-14 due to bonding, boredom, dares, rebellion, hormones, showing off, making up stupid games, testing each others loyalty, being obsessed with boys and clothes and image, all sorts.

People grow up at different rates. Those girls were just being silly and childish, and it was helping them bond. Its like "we're mad, we are, and we have got each other and hate the world!". Everyone tells you to behave so you do something silly to make your mate laugh.

Don't worry about it. People do strange thing all the time.

Either they were rushing for something or you're not telling us something.

You're reading WAY too much into this. You have no idea what they were thinking; they could have just been in a rush to get somewhere. One glance does not mean instant dislike.