Does anyone else act like a kid at home but not in public?

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03 Jul 2016, 10:07 pm

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I think it's normal to some extent for everybody to act differently at home than they do when outside their home comforts, but I believe it is more extreme with people with ASDs.

Firstly, saying, ''awwwww, look at that cute little animal'' to cute animals on the TV is something I hear NTs do a lot, admittedly women more so. My mum and her sisters do it all the time and it gets on my nerves. I do like animals but I don't keep shouting out how cute I think they are. It's really annoying.

I do act more childish, argumentative, hyper, angry, etc, at home. And when I'm out with friends or in public or at work, I act timid, placid, passive, shy, nervous, and laid-back. So basically, my friends can't imagine me being firey and aggressive and opinionated and immature, and my family can't imagine me being placid, laid-back, passive, and quiet.

So then I constantly get asked by my family how I can act so easy when I'm with my friends, but be so difficult to the people I love the most. I just don't know the answer. :oops:


I act the exact same way, and I don't know why. I try to make myself act more like I'm with friends when with my family but it doesn't really work. My family thinks I'm this one person who can't be calm and relaxed but I am.



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03 Jul 2016, 11:39 pm

you sound a bit like my boyfriend. he's not autistic (he has severe ADHD though) and he acts very differently when he's just with me vs. when he's with his friends or in public. i think it's because he feels embarrassed about how he compulsively acts and it gets even more intense when it's just me because i don't negatively judge him like his friends might. he's not okay if he can't be himself with someone else some of the time...like he acts cool with his friends but it takes a toll..makes him feel worse over time
thats why i'm okay with him being annoying a lot of the time because i would rather him annoy me than him be depressed because he has to stifle himself all the time



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03 Jul 2016, 11:49 pm

Depends rather you mean Appearance or Acting, I act more Adult when I go out, but at home, I act more childlike. Though my appearance tends to show the opposite.


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04 Jul 2016, 12:54 am

I talked baby-talk and sang babyish songs at home all the way till I left for college. Now I make up silly songs for my wife and son, and have a sort of goofy childish "language" that I only use with my wife.



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04 Jul 2016, 1:17 am

Um...actually a lot of 17-year-olds haven't had sex or even got drunk yet.


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04 Jul 2016, 11:35 am

It's a tossup. At home, yes, without a doubt I am a child internally. I'm 25 but act like I'm maybe 10ish most of the time. I'm a bit immature, act goofy and weird, talk to myself, scream out at random just to get the noise out, and play with stuffed animals and dolls. Some of my favorite moments during the day is playing games with my daughter who is four, because I can relate so well to her.

In public, I'm still rather childish, but I try to keep most of it maintained. I'll still tell immature jokes, make weird noises, and am hyper on occasion, but I maintain a more "motherly" personality to keep up my image. There are some things I'm not afraid to show the world, though. I take my ball jointed doll with me to work and play with him there. People notice, but they don't say anything. I think most of the people in my row here in the cubicles know I must have autism, lol. They see me rocking back and forth and stimming a lot. Plus I'm the weirdo with Tarot cards spread out all over my desk, pastels scattered, and jewelry junk all over the place. My desk is always a mess, and I love it.


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04 Jul 2016, 1:57 pm

I act like a KID sometimes. Sometimes is sometimes everyday. I have a childish way fo make friends. At home, that hospital is for me, I wrap my self in carpets and think about dolls. I can Scream and throw things araound me if I am disagree. But that I did not do When I in fact was a Child.



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04 Jul 2016, 1:58 pm

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It's a tossup. At home, yes, without a doubt I am a child internally. I'm 25 but act like I'm maybe 10ish most of the time. I'm a bit immature, act goofy and weird, talk to myself, scream out at random just to get the noise out, and play with stuffed animals and dolls. Some of my favorite moments during the day is playing games with my daughter who is four, because I can relate so well to her.

In public, I'm still rather childish, but I try to keep most of it maintained. I'll still tell immature jokes, make weird noises, and am hyper on occasion, but I maintain a more "motherly" personality to keep up my image. There are some things I'm not afraid to show the world, though. I take my ball jointed doll with me to work and play with him there. People notice, but they don't say anything. I think most of the people in my row here in the cubicles know I must have autism, lol. They see me rocking back and forth and stimming a lot. Plus I'm the weirdo with Tarot cards spread out all over my desk, pastels scattered, and jewelry junk all over the place. My desk is always a mess, and I love it.


Me too have ball jointed dolls!!



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04 Jul 2016, 4:18 pm

I'm often more playful at home or with people I like, but that's mainly because I'm often tired or shy when I'm out and about.


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12 Jul 2016, 1:55 pm

Joe90 wrote:
Um...actually a lot of 17-year-olds haven't had sex or even got drunk yet.


I was one of those 17 year olds and had many NT friends who were like that too.


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12 Jul 2016, 2:28 pm

when at home, im very hyperactive, i wont stop talking about video games, or even talking for that matter, wandering around the house, no control over the volume of my voice. but everywhere else i don't talk at all, unless i really have to in order to not be rude. honestly its weird


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12 Jul 2016, 6:43 pm

I dont know how to describe myself but i do know that what you see is what you get with me. Im the same at home and in public.

I guess the best way to put it is i am independent requiring mild support but i am very very immature for my age.


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12 Jul 2016, 9:23 pm

I do act "younger" for my age at home but in public I seem wise in my years and very mature.Though that's starting to wear off because I now treat my school as a secondary home.
One way I act "childish" is dancing impulsively to music I love the beat to.
Other is laughing like a maniac when I find something funny and I become a full on ninja doing rolls,acrobatics and hiding in the shadows. :D My family is getting a bit tired of my crap :lol:


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13 Jul 2016, 7:21 am

I definitely act like a little kid at home. I follow people around and constantly try to talk to them about Doctor Who and annoy them. In public, I'm very quiet and pretty much only speak if spoken to first.


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14 Jul 2016, 9:14 am

LucySnowe wrote:
I am 30 and I still act a bit childish in private; laughing, squealing at something I think is hysterical on TV, for example. But in public, I'm pretty stoic.


This is what KILLS me. :(

When I am home and alone, I can be MYSELF and not fear judgment or criticism. I know it's so juvenile to squeal with glee over something silly, but it makes me feel SO MUCH BETTER to let it out. When others are around, I have to constantly keep a lid on how I want to respond, and it's so exhausting to do that.

This is what hurts about being around others. Unless I can be "ME," I feel like I have to put on a show for everyone else, and even worse...putting on that show makes me feel like there's an even thicker wall between me and everyone else than already exists.



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19 Oct 2016, 3:36 pm

hello yes i do too. i act quite normal when i am at work or out with friends. but when i am on my own i love making silly voices and faces. i like playing with my cats as well. i thought i was the only one who did this but i guess we have all been made to conform in public