ADHD social problems vs ASD social problems

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I don't think autism causes stronger emotions. But it does make a lot of things difficult to get through. The noise, the figuring out what to do, what to say, what people mean. Even the being unable to recognize faces sometimes can make me feel sorry for myself.

People with ADHD and no autism seem to more intuitively figure out social interactions, less of a cognitive exercise for those with only ADHD and no autism. Though those with ADHD sometimes forget to do what they know, or don't catch themselves in time.

Autism makes connecting to give and receive support really tough, the social interactions and communicating effectively are a constant challenge, that gets really frustrating, really overwhelming. I've been told my emotions seem childish over-reactions to others. But I can't see that the emotions start out any different from anyone else's for people with autism or ADHD.

i never really knew adhd was that big of a deal - until i met my husband, now i know it is a true disorder and can even be afflicting at times.

my husband has adhd, and his behaviour was noticeable and caused concern for his parents and teachers when he was as young as 4. apparantly he was the equivelant to 10 children, and his dad left when my husband was only 6, because he couldnt handle him, so my mum had to bring him up all on her own. luckily she was very patient and loving.

my husband (now 50 years old) is still very hard work, and can be emotionally and socially immature. he doesn't get all social cues, and can come across as rude or annoying in group conversations. sometimes he can be talking but gets filtered out by the others, probably because he doesnt contribute appropriately to the conversation. he does better with just one or two other people.

he can have an immature sense of humour, like he seems to be amused by flatulance, and i have ibs so i suppose i could say he is lucky there.

i know he is rather on the shy side, and sometimes has to force himself to socialise. he tells me that all the time but he wants to fit in and be part of the crowd and gets embarrassed if other people know about his shy side, so he hides it a lot. he is hyperactive and so that can sometimes disguise his shyness, but it still does not mean he is not shy. he's just good with acting, although he makes more social faux pas that way.

he has a special interest, which is abandoned or burnt-out buildings, or the supernatural. his casual interest is snooker. he has an enjoyment of taking electrical things apart and putting it back again. his stereotypical man interest is sex with me.

he doesnt like books because he cant focus, and his handwriting is very hard to read. he likes films, but has to be in a very comfortable position to be able to focus on a film.

he is very affectionate towards me, and we have a very close bond. he is very understanding towards me and my autism, and i am very understanding to his adhd and learning difficulties he also encounters.

he is usually happy and very hyper, but he can get into moods sometimes, and if something upsets him enough he storms out and be quite rude. but generally he is quite a happy person.

they are basically his traits. sometimes i think he might have some mild autism (aspergers) traits but i cant be sure.