How were you perceived as a young child?

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06 Nov 2014, 3:48 pm

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I suggest that you ask your parents or other family members for detailed list of behaviors that were typical of you instead of how they perceive you in general as perfect or quiet or mature. It is the behaviors that psychs are looking for when diagnosing autism, not how a young child is thinking, which would be hard for anyone to recall and articulate accurately.

This is a really good idea. Also, I would not be so concerned about comparing yourself to your sibling. None of us are exactly the same. You may be more extreme in one area that your sibling is not and vice versa. Plus, it is not just one little thing that would disbar you. It's about the whole picture-- if that makes sense?


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06 Nov 2014, 5:32 pm

nyxjord wrote:
btbnnyr wrote:
I suggest that you ask your parents or other family members for detailed list of behaviors that were typical of you instead of how they perceive you in general as perfect or quiet or mature. It is the behaviors that psychs are looking for when diagnosing autism, not how a young child is thinking, which would be hard for anyone to recall and articulate accurately.

This is a really good idea. Also, I would not be so concerned about comparing yourself to your sibling. None of us are exactly the same. You may be more extreme in one area that your sibling is not and vice versa. Plus, it is not just one little thing that would disbar you. It's about the whole picture-- if that makes sense?


ok, i will try asking my parents. i live with my dad but conversations is very difficult for me so i'm not sure how i'll go about this. but thanks for the advice, i will work on it.

also, the reason i compare myself so much to my brother, and not my sister or other people, is because he's the only other person who i can actually relate to. like we both were born on a different planet. but i realize we are not the same person so there will be differences. it's just an automatic thing i guess. i will try to be more mindful about this.



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06 Nov 2014, 6:33 pm

Adults loved me, kids were afraid of me.

I was a cheerful kid not afraid of anything. Coming up to a total stranger and telling him I collected 4 snails today then tell him that his jacket is turquoise color with doveish details? No problem at all.
I was considered cute, brave and smart girl. One could talk with me as with one of adults. My vocabulary and thinking patterns were advanced for my age.

The problem was with kids. I believe they seen me as a monster or something. I was coming to them and saying "Hi, I'm Kate. And whats your name?" and they were getting all shy for some reason and hide behind their parents. Adults were surprised. "C'mon, tell her whats your name. Look, it's so nice girl. She asked you for your name.", <silence>, "I have no idea what come into him. He usually doesn't act like this...".



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06 Nov 2014, 6:55 pm

I was very difficult, cried alot, always unhappy, said offensive things while accusing others of being mean to me, got upset quickly, kept to myself & was quiet a lot.


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06 Nov 2014, 8:07 pm

Shy, as I didn't speak to anyone.



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06 Nov 2014, 8:27 pm

Developmentally delayed, socially atypical...fine with being alone for hours.


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06 Nov 2014, 11:08 pm

Those that don't know I'm autistic perceive me as being "ret*d"



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06 Nov 2014, 11:11 pm

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07 Nov 2014, 6:03 am

I was seen as slow. And strange. And I was told I cried a lot in elementary school by people I grew up with.



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07 Nov 2014, 8:06 am

I don't know how I was during my infant years, but my parents have told me I was very aggressive in Kindergarten. I also had a hard time making friends and had a huge obsession with rocks too. I could never sit still either. I always got up from my chair to run around, which often angered my teachers. I was very disruptive. At the time, they said I had ADHD though. I wasn't fully diagnosed with autism until age twelve.


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07 Nov 2014, 8:43 am

i could not care how i was seen.
i just am the way i am.



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07 Nov 2014, 10:29 pm

unit_00 wrote:
as for stereotyped behaviors, there was a lot but people almost constantly told me how 'shy' and 'quiet' and 'mature' i was, so i just associated my behaviors with that. (i should note that i'm transgender, so i was brought up and seen as a little girl, not a boy. which i think may factor into this) it wasn't even until this year that i realized i stim. i did have a special interest in elementary, bats. in middle school: neopets. i still had the same problems socializing with kids my age, but i compensated by being quiet and essentially letting them treat me like a doll. i would cry a lot in school because i was overwhelmed, but didn't have the words to explain it so i still got in trouble from teachers/the nurse quite a bit.


As a child, I behaved extremely androgynously and spent minimal time with the male figures in my life, except my brother. I cry in school a lot too because most of the time, the people I know are scum and don't consider how I am feeling. I stim today but more so when I was little. I am also more prone to extremities in emotion or lack of it than most people (Borderline Personality Disorder) and have Tourettes, so control over my body is impossible at times.


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07 Nov 2014, 11:00 pm

Well-behaved and intelligent, but extremely annoying.



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08 Nov 2014, 3:34 pm

Very shy (in most cases), calm, well-behaved, intelligent, obsessive, mature, fair, sometimes temperamental. I didn't always develop relationships with my classmates in the same way others did, and I often preferred having conversations with adults or being alone. It also seems that my interests were weird, probably because I didn't follow the trends in school.



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08 Nov 2014, 4:02 pm

My parents and my teachers saw me as fairly intelligent, but troubled, angry, and disruptive with difficulty following directions. Other children saw me as annoying, weird, a loose cannon, and a crybaby. I had a tendency to avoid other boys who didn't immediately like me. On the other hand, I chased the girls (literally and figuratively) and wanted to hang around them, whether they liked me or not. I would never have that courage again. :)

I wasn't particularly comfortable with any age group though, because I didn't have any adult or child I could really depend on. So it all went pear-shaped very early. Neither my parents nor my school were in any way prepared to help me or address my needs.


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08 Nov 2014, 4:17 pm

My mom told me that I would often ignore people I had met before and instead would talk to strangers. I remember that I did not want to brush my teeth or have ear drops. Also I would eat very few things. I liked bread and butter and one time I put on A LOT of butter. It may have happened more than once. Another thing is I was adamant that my food did not touch. I didn't try a hamburger till I was 14 or so because I didn't like how they looked. I was pretty much thoughtless with little concept of other people until I was 11-12 (?).

Except that I had crushes. In 4th grade I remember smiling at the girl I liked and she smiled back and I was happy. Then in 5th grade we had math tubs for our groups. No matter which group my crush was in I would always get their math tub for them. Eventually she told her friend that if I asked her out she would say yes. I did not ask her out. Dating was too much to comprehend. I just liked her being my crush and smiling at her. One time in class we were watching a poison dart frog video and she was sitting close to me. I was happy as a lark.

Going back a little bit, in 2nd grade I got yelled at for not doing homework. I hadn't done homework in a few weeks. When my teacher yelled at me I cried. Then I started doing my homework and went back to normal. In 3rd grade I would do my homework during school so I could go home and play Final Fantasy Tactics. I cared very little about anything else besides Final Fantasy Tactics.