I decided to tell all my internet people about my ASD...

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I have tried telling people that it's hurtful to try to invalidate a diagnosis that finally explains why I've always felt this way, unless they're my doctor or have all of the information that my doctor was given, they can't make this call. Nobody, or very few mentally ill people, would want to be classified as having what is considered a mental disability - there's way better things to lie about, so why would you pick having ASD?

Barring their ability to accept that I just stop talking to them, but that's, you know, probably not the best approach.

Nah, probably not (the best approach). Rather enticing, though. Bummer.

I get irritated that they (the "haters") are so stupid, and I struggle to try to understand intellectually where they are coming from (which is a mistake because there is no intellect driving their anger/hatred)... then NTs tell me not to "let the haters get to me" or "just do you" or whatever and I'm like, ummmm but I'm not, and I always "do me", wtf WHY CAN I NOT JUST BE CURIOUS ABOUT SOMETHING WITHOUT BEING BUTTHURT?

I've recently come to understand it's because the "don't let the haters get you down" people would be hurt if they were in my situation.

I sort of just feel bad for the "haters", or amused, or both. Their lives have to suck to devote so much of their time/energy to feeling hatred or at least negative feelings towards strangers. They probably just need a hug. Usually I just ignore them, but sometimes I debate them and sometimes I goad them. There's one in particular on this thread on my facebook page that I've been goading (the one that accused me of just wanting drugs) for my own personal amusement.

Hmmm... thanks!

Yeah it's a little juvenile but after enough people say totally stupid stuff (not just about this) to me I just get flippant. Like, "Yeah, I totally used to be a man, you're absolutely right, however did you guess?" Or, "Of course I look like I need a cheeseburger, why don't you buy me one?"

I guess I should have my feelings hurt or whatever but instead I'd rather know WHY people say the things they do... For example, I have people tell me all the time that I'm so full of myself because all I do is post about myself and my hobbies or whatever, ON MY SOCIAL MEDIA (instagram, Facebook "fan" page). I've tried asking them what they expect me to post exactly, but I've been very disappointed with the lack of answer, or how they just insult me when I ask, without giving an answer. The only thing I can figure is that it's an emotional response they're having, they're upset for some reason I cannot fathom, certainly not for any logical reason. When I ask them about it, I always have other people tell me "don't let the haterzzzz get you down!" which is frustrating because I literally just want to understand why a person would do this thing that seems so far from the scope of reason for me, not because I am emotional about it. Alas.

Does it ever occur to people that expressing ones self online might be a little easier than in person social interaction some of the time...especially if you have autism which makes it hard to perceive/react to everything in real time, especially people you aren't used to. I mean its not hard to post a few words and a picture or share something cool on facebook.....it can be much easier than talking to people. And also some people clearly don't know how a diagnoses works you don't get multiple separate diagnoses of the same thing...you get a diagnoses, other's with liscence to diagnose than might agree with or disagree with said diagnoses, but you don't get multiple diagnoses for the same condition. You can see different professionals and get the diagnoses confirmed and reconfirmed ect.

LOL. That is funny.

Ever get the Feeling™ that most people are just mind-controlled or under some kind of mass-hypnosis to a greater or lesser extent ? Particularly NT™s ? Considering that NT™s do tend to have more Superficial-minds after all. Has it ever made any of us become suspicious of things like psychotronics ? Mind-control, psycho-tronics, the intentional/deliberate dumbing down of the world's population into becoming NT™s, etc.

I often think that the premise of The Matrix is absolutely true -- that humans are, indeed, living in a complete illusion created by machines that use us for their nefarious purposes while we play golf, destroy the earth, and think living is a meaningful activity as we watch (or not notice, as the case may be) 25,000 people die of starvation every day but do not feel there is something brutally wrong with our existence. Mind-controlled and mass-hypnotized? Sure. How else does one explain this madness?

For me it's easier because I can think and choose carefully how I come across... much moreso than if someone comes up to me in person and says something which I then take entirely too long to respond to without making eye contact or I just don't respond because I don't know how & they think I'm a jerk. I don't think people consider that OR the fact that as we get older, we can learn to sort of mimic "normal" social interaction.

A lot of people view ASD/autism as the new "over-diagnosed" thing, like fibromyalgia and gluten sensitivity (both of which I also have so, go me), they think that we just go see just a general practitioner who says "f*** it I don't know, it's probably Aspergers!" rather than having a lifetime of nearly unmistakeable symptoms before seeing specialists and getting tests like the ADOS done.

I also think some people are jealous... they want to be "different" and think they would get attention for it, so they want to make sure that we don't get any attention they feel is undue (especially if they secretly want this attention for themselves, nevermind all the other often crappy things that come along with being on the spectrum)

EVERYONE WANTS TO BE SPECIAL THESE DAYS --- STOP WITH THE LABELING -- YOU ARE SO NORMAL

People that say and think these things are definitely not in the spectrum. That is a blatant NT. And they can go f**k themselves. You probably appear normal to them because you have been "acting" normal. But they have NO idea what is going on in your brain by just watching or following you. That's impossible.

It was brave to do what you have done. I also have internet "celebrity status" as well (yes I'm not kidding) but I could never "come out" like you have. It takes some guts. But at the end of the day, knowone really cares anyway, they just like you for you.

You totally nailed it... so much of this. "Stop with the labeling" or "a label doesn't change anything" is at least usually well meaning- except you know, it's a reason for the way I've always been, and that there are other people like me, and I can do therapy to help my weird brain & make me a bit more able to cope.

I just started with Therapy myself. I found a women with 25 years of experience. She could tell I have symptoms before even taking the exam. I am still waiting to hear back on my diagnosis, but I already know how it will turn out.

It's funny when people say "Hey do you think I could have Aspergers?" Dude if you have the s**t you KNOW. LOL. Unless it's a mild case where you have been pretty "cope-able" for all these years.

My deal is quite different. I need to drill in deeper to find out what is going on with me. WAY too smart and big time socially ret*d forever. Heck, my posts on here don't even get replies like yours lol? What does that tell you.

No but really, it is what it is. You did the right thing.

I stand on the roof of my house and shout to the whole neighborhood HEY EVERYONE I'M AUTISTIC AND PROUD! I mostly get a couple of people saying shut up.