I think part of the confusion here is the ambiguity of the definition of the word and its contextual usage.
There's playing as in playing a game for fun, which can be less fun for someone who doesn't understand the rules.
And then there's playing as in playing head games, manipulating people and trying to mess with their minds. I don't think anyone finds it fun to be on the other end of that--unless it's some kind of Sherlock Holmes/Moriarty relationship.
Waterfalls, I really hope your daughter wasn't trying to play head games with you. Some teens will get into that, though, and parents on the Autism Spectrum can be easy prey. I didn't know what to do with my teenage boys, I had no concept of the ways they were spinning me 'round on purpose so they could get away with whatever mischief they could think of.
But when it comes to games for fun that they're trying to cue you in to--that's harmless fun, but I see where it could be frustrating for her if you're missing her cues. My daughter thought giving me a pedicure would be a great Mothers' Day gift (she does that with her sis, stepmom and girl cousins often and enjoys it). My sensory issues are magnified x100 around my feet. I sat for it, and I hope she had no idea how uncomfortable it really made me! In fact I felt a need to ask her to do a touch up on it last weekend--it didn't happen, but maybe I'll ask her on the 27th. Except there are already too many things going on that day!
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Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 141 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 71 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
Official diagnosis: Austism Spectrum Disorder Level One, without learning disability, without speech/language delay; Requiring Support
16 Jun 2015, 6:28 pm
