Is this a example of language impairment?

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Only in a twisted way does it make a point.. Here is why:

1. You are asking if it is ok to go to the bathroom. You are not asking the person if you are able.

2. If the person says you may not, it does not invalidate that your ability to actually relieve yourself. Just not at that location. So, your ability is still there. You still 'can' go to the bathroom. You just may not leave to do so.

So, no, the point is not really there.

I was actually trying to not be all Aspie on the answer from before. I forgot where I was and that it's acceptable here. LOL

Hee's the thing, there is proper grammar and common grammar. I am all for common grammar...I mean, look at my punctuation and phrasing....

But, I do try to use grammar properly because it is correct, and it is da rules.....

Ok...yeah, I break rules...so do a lot of Aspies...we are not rule bound. We follow rules because it helps us navigate. But we are not rule bound. What I see is that we are 'code' bound.

Sometimes, we just have a roundabout way of doing things.

To me, as long as a result is obtained, who gives a flying f**k how you obtained the result.

Think about Jackson Pollack vs Michelangelo.

Pollack made much more money just throwing paint on the canvas than Michelangelo did lying on his back for 16 years.

Pollack got the results he needed without having to refine his craft too much.

In every day life, not much difference at all. Like I said, I make a practice of butchering the language. Especially in class when it's part of the 'entertainment' package of teaching a class. It's humourous and it catches their attention. Keeps 'em on their toes.

But, when anybody reads my resumes or cover letters or what not, yeah, it gets noticed. If you have ten people who can't properly conjugate and one who can...who looks better to even get in the door to interview?

So, as 'Nana' says on Mike and Molly, "Time and place boy, time and place!"

The classroom is the proper place. It is a bit of a dickish move, but you know.....dickish moves stick with you for life and hopefully the lesson with it as well.

Now, if the teacher went on the street and tried to correct it, well, that's definitely the wrong place and time.

Yep...Time and Place. 100%.

In the case of resumes, you definitely have to pay attention to the details. Simply because, in NYC, 100 people are competing for 1 job sometimes.

in a place like WP, though, anything goes. We're not trying to get jobs when we post on WP.

As long as you don't insult somebody, or write extremely long posts with no punctuation and no paragraph formation.

I completely agree. But, since the question was about a teacher getting nitpicky with grammar, I focused on that. I mean really, a teacher's job is to be nitpicky. Sooooooo.......

But, here, I seem like a hypocrite because I mangle the crap outta words, sentence structure and such. Not always on purpose though LOL

But, here is not at work.....

You're right about that 1 job and 100 people trying for it. Now, imagine that by 5 times the competition. That's what it's like in India and China....imagine that competition level boyos!!

LOL....where did you "boyo" from? It's 19th century NYC slang for a gang member from the Bowery Boys gang.

I think it extended to all gang members from that time--the 1840s-1850s.

I am a mass of collected information from all sorts of places. Things that I can put into conversations. What was funny was that they told me I had an excellent memory. Really excellent. So, I looked at her and said, "So, what you're telling me is that I'm a good repository for stuff."

I told her that I'm waiting for the mothership to just come along and download the data becuase the memory banks are getting full LOL.

It's good to be a repository. All you have to do is organize it somewhat.

It's not selling out not to try to organize it, as far as I'm concerned. It's adapting to prevailing conditions.

It's good and it's bad. When I get into the 'overthinking things' I tend to do, it's not good.

Think of it as "editing your thoughts."

I have to that--"edit my thoughts."

Use your cognition to determine the context, then apply the thought to the context.

Know that you probably shouldn't discuss the origin of "boyo" while buying something at the bodega, and trying to flirt with that cute girl with the rose in her head. Talk about the little frog known as the "coqui."

It's not always going to be smooth. But at least you have a starting point, in my opinion.

No. Not exactly.

If you're a rebel without a cause like James Dean in a black leather jacket you might have the desire to defy the teacher, and to go to the bathroom whether the teacher approves or not. And you would be physically able to do that (she cant physically stop you). So strictly speaking whether or not you "may" (ie are "allowed to") go to the bathroom has nothing to do with whether or not you "can" (have the physical ability to) go to the bathroom.

In contrast there may be situations in which "may not do X", and "cannot do X" are the same. Like you cant leave your prison cell unless the guard unlocks the door, and you are also not allowed to leave your prison cell without the guards permission. So in that situation there would be no difference between "may", and "can".

It's funny that you mention the "Editing thoughts" because I have always known that I have a poor filter. I just didn;t realize how poor. And, the era we grew up in, you just didn't get trained on that at all. It was assumed you would get it or you were ust the problem child.

It is a real skill I have to learn and get feedback on.

I really think that learning both how to control the overthinking and filter issues will be cross beneficial.

I don't go into origins of things like that, only because it's not a special interest LOL...prick that special interest bubble and I'll chase you down the stairs with facts.

But, honestly, I find that I make fun of my whiteness and it does quite well. Here's a 'for instance.'
Go into heavily Latin bodega. Order a hot roast beef sandwich. They ask if I want it cooked with vinegar. Oh yeah!! Then they ask if I want mayonnaise with that.

I look at my hands, flip them around and then tell them that I'm a white guy...of course I want mayo! Not only do I want mayo! I want it in white man proportions!! They laugh, I laugh, I get the proper amount of mayo.

That has been a very practiced routine I do when I go to places. I literally have a set of routines I do. It does not go over well with many people if they get to know me over time. I've been told the old axiom, "We know zkydz, you did/said the same thing on this date, that date and the other date."

What I think is jarring to them is for them to see me go from Robin Williams to Agitated Spock in an instant. And I'm not agitated...I'm just thinking real hard or something else...but not agitated. The Spock thing comes from how I go from freeform, crazy connections to this really direct, 1,2,3 logical thinking.

You hit the nail on the head. People like it when you don't act all PC all the time, and just act like your culture (also know as "yourself.:").

Those people in the bodega are thinking you're the "wacky white guy" or something like that. But they generally shrug their shoulders, and acquire a certain affection for you. If you tried to, somehow, assimilate in their culture, they might actually get resentful, and become suspicious of you. Sometimes, they mind it if you flirt with the lady workers there; sometimes, they don't mind.

I'm known in a restaurant as "locoman." Since I'm the Wolfman, I respond with "loboman, not locoman!" Sometimes, they call me "Chihuahua man," and I respond with a howl.

As long as there is no disrespect, it's all good. Sometimes I mess that up. But, yeah, I'm the 'wacky white guy.' Always have been. I've lived a great deal of my life around people who were not white i.e. I'm the minority. So, I just be me and they don;t seem to get offended. And, they may be excusing it to a degree too.

I've just never tried to assimilate as in 'imitate.' I can barely do that in my culture LOL

no, your teacher just wanted to reassert their control over you. you can just walk out of the room and go to the bathroom...or just go to the bathroom in your pants if you're so inclined. you have the power to do those things (although there are consequences). your teacher wanted you to acknowledge your submission to the system rather than express your free will.

of course its more grammatically nuanced than that, but other people have already gone over why that is.

How is someone actually teaching something proper controlling you?

Whether they are jerks or not, it's not always about control.