Do you stim more in private or out in public?

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probably more alone since I spend lots of time alone xD

I stim more in private. When I'm all alone where no one can see me, it is as if the dog was let off the chain. I almost constantly stim up until I go out or someone enters my space. Then I lock it up, but when I'm anxious in conversation, there are leaks.

Both.

In fact, I stim both in public and private almost the same way.
None of my main stims look odd.
One did stand out and draw onlookers, but doesn't class as 'weird', 'annoying', or 'socially violating'.

The rest is subtle, if not unconscious yet still socially acceptable.

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Probably about the same. There are a few stims, like making certain noises, that I make a serious effort to avoid doing in public. Mostly I'm successful, but I've caught myself in public a few times.

private. i have good self-control and i'm motivated to self-control out of fear of people who try to take advantage of anyone who appears to be naive and/or intellectually/developmentally disabled

More in private, but that's also because a lot of my stims aren't exactly discreet. Rocking in public when you're an otherwise "normal" looking person doesn't really make you seem sane.

Parents wouldn't allow me to stim in public or in front of them, they'd make me feel embarrassed and ashamed, so I've carried that into adulthood and only do it in private. I do tend to go into odd spasms and facial expressions when I'm doing it though, so I can't really blame them.
I can't be out in public for very long.

Most often in private, when re-playing stressful events.

My stimming, at least what I think of as being noticeable and obviously autistic stimming, is pretty much exclusively limited to when I'm alone. I do think I do some stuff in public that some folks might consider to be mild stims, but it's definitely not anything too out of the ordinary and not anything I haven't seen some neurotypical people do.

When I was very young, I did all of my stimming in both public and private. But the criticism that I received for doing it in public squashed it there pretty quickly.

That being said, in recent years I have found that I deal with stress a lot more frequently/easily, and since overwhelming stress is a major thing that causes me to stim, there have been more times that I have slipped up a little and did a bit of major stimming in public. But I have to be very overwhelmed for this to happen.

Definitely waaay more in private, because I am scared of being judged by people. It's always something I've felt the need to hide, but I do stim in public and those stims are more unnoticeable to other people (like fidgeting with something in my pocket, moving my toes in my shoes etc), while my private stims are very typically autistic stims like hand flapping for example.