Do You Get Days When You Just Don’t Want to Talk to People?

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Most days are like this for me and I only choose to be around people on very rare occasions because I'm forced to be with them at work without my choice.

NTs are just too much damn work.

I have this as well and it occurs when the situation gets too emotionally charged for me and people are yelling or even with raised voices will trigger this for me. I just clam right up and I can't make a peep and it's like I'm completely locked up or something. I usually bolt out of situations like that.

I just can't deal with excessive emotion because my head is already full of a raging torrent and any more and I'm over-flowing.

Almost all days are like that

There are exceptions

Certain situations and people

But not many exceptions

There sure are days when I don't wanna talk to people, be social, or be around people. Honestly, that is how I feel and have felt almost every day of my life. I generally find people annoying and bothersome. Only time I'm around people (Family excluded of course), is when I am forced to (public transport, shops, streets, school in the past, work if I was employed, meetings I have to go, appointments I have to keep, and in the past socializing other kids pestered me into (and a lot of why nots when I said no; for the last 25 years no one has ever been able to pester me into being with them).
And when I've had to be around people, I have never felt a need to comment on things said etc, I just think of what I think of around themes in question if I have thoughts on them, and am content not sharing those thoughts/ opinions. I live in my head.

Never once have I had a day when I actively wanted to communicate, talk, be social (again apart from the 4 individuals that were/are my immediate family)

Except with two people, an hour of conversation requires a day of re-plays to check for errors by my crippled social side. If I've got a few days backlog on the post-processing, I try to cut off the input.

Well, in my case the question should be: do I get days when I actually want to talk to people? On rare occations I might, but the feelling passes quite soon.

People with selective mutism - can you talk through messaging? Just curious.

Yes

In that case I’m starting to think I might have had it. I always had trouble talking to new people esp if they were the opposite sex. I kinda got bolder with age I guess. I don’t seem to have that issue now if that’s possible.

In any case yes I do lock myself up once a week when I don’t want to talk to anyone.

Last edited by Pjscrab on 18 Aug 2018, 10:54 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, espsecially of the time and effort it takes to conduct a favorable outcome in any social scenario.

Pretty much constantly but I push myself to respond to text messages from friends and go out and see them if they want to and I push myself to text them if we haven't talked in a while - because I don't want to lose them. Unfortunately I can come off as much ruder towards people I personally don't really consider "friends" and never respond to their texts because I rather save my energy for the few people I genuienly like and tolerate. Luckily the people that I consider to be real friends have no problem with me having those days when they can't reach me because the ones who aren't aspies like myself are introverts.