Is it hard to talk at times?

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I often have trouble "verbalizing" my thoughts into spoken language, causing me to stutter, stammer, and have the "tip-of-the-tongue" effect a lot. It's why I hate explaining things when put on the spot or giving directions.

I hate "talking".

I like conversation.

Talking about Brad getting off with Sharon in the club last night is not conversation. And I hate that, but I still try to contribute.

There are certain people who when I talk to them, the words get all jumbled up when they come out of my mouth.

I often get a mental block whem I'm asked a question.

This is why I'm worried about going to interviews.

I haven't spoken for over two weeks now. There's no point.

Yes; I fall involuntarily silent for periods not infrequently, both in the talking and in the writing sense. I'm not sure why. Something just doesn't work. I tell people that I am "broken" during these times, or sometimes that "my muse isn't talking to me right now".

It does feel like a mental block. And it causes me to ignore people sometimes. I hate it.

Good fortune,

- Icarus is self-repairing...

Its weird, I freeze up talking even when I know I'm talking to another Aspie and that I don't have to act all fake and NT. No idea why.

Constantly.

The only time I approximate "fully functional" verbally is when I'm with the few people I've known and learned to trust over many years, and even with them I generally have bad meltdowns if the conversation veers into an "emotional" subject. They've seen it before, though, and I know they won't hold it against me.

In professional circumstances, I'm usually fine so long as conversation is restricted to work/technical issues - I can discuss these intellectual challenges openly so long as things are reciprocal. If someone gets aggressive with me, however, I usually shut down and find myself only able to respond sharply, if at all.

I think one of the things that confused me for many years was the presumption by many people that becoming distraught during conversation meant that I was "processing" repressed feelings and that by "letting it out" I was somehow overcoming an imagined barrier... But that was simply never the case, because it wasn't the issue that was causing distress - it was the rawness of the interaction, and the confrontational/aggressive stance that the other person would often take.

These days I don't let people get that far inside my defenses - there's no point, since they wouldn't understand what's going on inside anyway, and I just don't need the angst/stress that comes from those kinds of conversations.

And while I wish my general conversational dyslexia (which often translates into simply not speaking at all in unfamiliar circumstance) was not so pervasive, there's really not a lot I can do to change how I feel or who I am - my mind is going to go blank whether I want it to or not.

Anyway, my two-cents.

Nick

I do this too. When having verbal discussions with anyone, it doesn't matter how long I've known them or how well, I seem to have two settings: nothing, and full deluge. Either I can't make the words come out of my mouth, or I can't make them stop. It's incredibly annoying, because in the first instance I quite often have something I wish to say, and in the second I know I'm annoying people around me, and it isn't very comfortable. I much prefer writing; I almost never have a problem when I'm writing.