Do You Feel You Are Behind in Life?

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Yeah, you're a bit worse off than I am. I tested out of high school at 16, but at least I got a high school equivalence out of it. Tried going to community college but just couldn't get my mind on anything I wanted to take. Ive had many jobs in the past 4 years, but none for more than 6 months and large gaps without employment that look bad on applications. Currently coming off a seasonal job at Toys R Us and have to start looking again. I'll be 24 in August and still live with my Mom, I'm single and have only really been on a date with one woman which didn't go well and I didn't enjoy due to a complete lack of common interests and failure to communicate, I have friends who all rent a house together and they give me s**t for my inability to get a date. Ive got around $5,800 in debt on my credit card that I can barely make payments on, I drive around a car that was considered totaled(But still runs, thankfully) by my insurance company after I rear ended someone in July, Its all just generally pretty much a lot of suck.

wow i did the same cept i got my g.e.d. on my own, everything sounds the same cept i have held a job for atleast a year.

Brittany,
what is the minimum leaving age from school in New Zealand?
Am left school at 15 as well [16 is minimum]but due to expulsion.
No EWO ever got back in contact with mum about finding a new school so had been written off.


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don't know,and not bothered.
am concentrate on own tasks and let things come when they come.

It's also impossible to compare to another person because even without autism,aspergers,pddnos,adhd,learning difficulties whatever in the way,there's a whole load of other stuff that affect peoples' lives as well-different experiences.

Academically, I have achieved quite a bit more than some people my age, but that is the only area in which I am advanced.

I don't have a driver's license, but I will work on it this year.

I am working on getting a full time job at the library.

Yes iam behind cos i was a late talker didn't mixed up wid ppl very well n got excluded 4rm skool as early as 14 don't have a driving license n still live wid me parents also not 2 4get been single 4 all of me life.

I've been feeling like this for the last couple of days Silver!

Yeah, I feel like I've had a very slow start. I think my life really did begin at 30, because that's about when I gained balance, or control, or... something.

I'm only 32 now, so I have had just two years to make a go of things so far. I've got a lot of catching up to do.

I've decided to focus my life on my creativity. I've got a knew mantra. Creation or stagnation. If I'm not creating something, I'm stagnating. Stagnating is bad. It means that I'll have wasted my time on this planet this time around and I'll die unfulfilled.

Hopefully I can get my ass into gear and start my life moving.

In some ways I feel very behind.
I can't hold a job, I never graduated high school, and can't seem to get a grasp on college.

But i try not to let it bother me, because..

In other ways I feel like I am ahead.
I know what makes me truly happy, and i run with it. Thats something that i think a lot of NT's don't figure out till later, if ever.

i cant seem to find my life. i dont know what to do with it exept collect cards and listen to good music

Definitely, though I feel better about it lately.

Five years out of high school, all my peers are getting married, having children, moving to big cities,graduating from college and landing great jobs. When I graduated I got a McJob and stayed at home. I didn't make any friends, I didn't date, I didn't learn how to drive, I didn't go to college. I have no idea what I did with my time for a period of 3-4 years. I think back and all I remember is a haze of depression.

A couple of years ago this started bothering me and ever since then I have been in overdrive trying to "catch up". I'm doing fairly well, but I still have a lot of work ahead of me. I enrolled in college, got a better job, moved out, and learned to drive. I'm stuck at age 16 socially, it seems. No friends or anything like that. I'm trying to work on that, but it's not my primary focus right now. I don't know that I'll ever achieve great success, but I'd be happy with simply being financially independent and finding somebody I care about.

I feel for all of you guys. Good luck with all your future endeavours. I know how hard it has been for me.

Ya, totally. I am 25 and seem to have no momentum at this point in life for a family or settling down, but I did manage to get a decent non-career job and got a nice pad to myself.

Ya, seems their are milestones we dont reach, big changes that are like steps up in life, maby at least for me I become so intune to the way things are, life is routine, order, and so rather then keeping up with your age group to try and make those changes, at least for me I just always keep things stable, and I dont want it to always be this way, but it just might.

By a considerable degree. After almost half a decade out of school and I've made little progress aside from realizing that deep interpersonal relationships are beyond my capabilities, making the drive for a career path all the more important. Good for those of you who have found peace with their situation...I really mean that in a non-sarcastic way...I just don't want my existence to turn out to have been a 50-year wait to grow old and die. My greatest nightmare is to wake up twenty years from now with nothing to show and past my peak age.

I'm 27, about to be 28, and it seems like I have spent the last 7 or 8 years just sitting in front of my computer doing nothing while the rest of the people around me have been out living life, having kids, lots of friends, landing great careers, etc..

Breaking up with my gilrfriend the beginning of this year has been a big wake up call to me. I guess this made me realize that I have a lot of things to work on in my life.


I haven't failed at everything:

I have a decent paying job that I am comfortable at(although not my career choice)
I have a car (and can drive it)
I have a good bit of money saved up for when I move out on my own

For the moment I'm years ahead of my peers and proud of it. I've got two or three close friends and have many aquaintances I've met through them. I've already got experience in the career field I want to persue (archaeology). I'll get my GED in the fall when I turn 16 and then I'm applying for college. It's possible that I'll fall behind after college if I can't find a job, but if I do find one I'll lead a normally paced life, hopefully in the country and with a dog and with wi-fi, not ahead or behind anybody just being.

After spending a lifetime doing alot of physical labor and menial jobs and getting fired or leaving before I got fired, I finally found out that I'm on the autistic spectrum... It explains alot.
I've suffered most of my life because I'm not accepted by most of "society". it hurts... alot

I've had low self-esteem because of this and didn't have the confidence to go after my true gift, almost as though I was afraid of success itself.. There is so much that I haven't done that I could have done.. I've been beating my self up about this for years now... Consumed by my own failure, making me feel down-in-the-dumps constantly, so that I won't have the confidence to work more on something I really could be successful at.. I'm so used to being a failure, if I ever was successful, it might make me feel like I had wasted so much of my life. This is a never-ending cycle of "missing out on life"... I really want to change this negative pattern... this year!

My New Year's Resolution.. Be as successful as I can be!! ! regardless of all the crap people say.

thanks.

Yea i defintely feel like im behind in life, like i'm stuck on slow, while everybody is stuck on fast forward...

I've always known I was 'smart' and not stupid. Yet, in every job I've had to have social interactions with large groups of people, it has always been a struggle. Luckily, I was able to break into the information technology field (I simply love computers, science, politics, and mathematics and could talk for hours about it like any Aspie would understand) and limit most of my interactions with others at work. That helped out a lot.

I did not get my license till the age of 19. I struggled in regular college campuses, but did much better taking online courses. Relationships and love, while I am fortunate to have been married twice, have both ended in disaster with both ex-spouses thinking I had no emotions or didn't love them, when in fact the opposite was true.

I do wake up everyday feeling like life is a struggle, and I know I have worked hard to understand and interact with NT's the way I do now. I just don't like getting so depressed and feeling lonely most of the time because I like being happy and do like social interactions with others.