Do people take advantage of you?

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Yeah... people tend to call me when they need help with something... otherwise I won't hear from them for months at a time.

I had a long-distance pen pal Star Trek friend who when she became too sick, we switched to long-distance phone calls ... for which I paid nearly all the bills.

After 13 years, her secret came out that she was a Jehovah's Witness. Being a Catholic, I was still willing to be friends with her and told her that as long as both of us respected each other's religion, it would be all right.

Well, she could not bring herself to respect my religion once she was out in the open and after 13 years of friendship, she dumped me right then and there.

Turns out the reason she had kept quiet about her true self and kept stringing me along for so long is that bedridden Jehovah's Witnesses who cannot go door to door can get credit for trying to convert people by mail or over the phone ... It was very likely that she was keeping a little notebook and writing down the amount of hours we spent in conversation, so she could pass on that information to her Elders.

I was cheated out of a lot of money once. That taught me.

But aside from money, I was always cheated a lot because I had no idea how these hidden agendas work.

I let a girl in my class borrow my gel pens once and she took about 6 of them and never gave them back. They were £1 each and when you are 11 years old, that is not cheap!

I think my friends take advantage of my passive nature and see it as an excuse to do bad things to me because they know I won't do anything stupid back to them.

People do not take advantage of me as I have too much nous to let that happen.

I tend to get taken advantage of in a variety of ways, but I'm still unsure of when I'm being taken advantage of unless it's really severe and obvious and the person is being mean to me additionally. I still have a tendency to be naive and trusting, despite my series of problems in this area.

I am taken advantage of often. It's largely because I tend to believe people are doing what I am doing, which is basically acting in good faith. Even when I know they are not doing so, I tend to think it's best to give the benefit of the doubt, despite the fact that my instincts are telling me to run away and avoid the person. And that gets me taken advantage of a lot.

oh yeah...I'm better about spotting the freeloaders now, but in my yute, I was fair game...

I grew up mistrustful of others - when kids tried to be friends with me, I was convinced they were being "good Samaritans" (my own 8-year-old words at the time), so it has always been hard for people to get over on me. I knew I was different so for protection I got over any naivety fast. I always feel like there's an ulterior motive and have to be proven differently. For me, trust is something someone earns, and since I don't like people much to begin with (except for a select few), I'll only put myself out if I really want to from a gut level. I think perhaps I differ from other Aspies in this regard.

-J.

People have taken advantage of me in the past. They've stolen from me, aswell. I was too trusting and thought that all humans wanted to do good. I was mistaken.

Now, i'm careful about who I trust.

It happen a lot in my previous job when i was workin at first great western ppl takin advantage over me cos i was willin 2 work but den they took da piss as i was workin 6 dayz where as other ppl were only doin 5 dayz n got a weekend off i never did.

People take advantage of me as well, I am too nice, but i cant help to be too mean too people. I unintentionally allow people to tak advantage of me.

Oh, all the time. Probably because of lack of empathy... but these days I am much more careful about whom I trust.

My roommate last year took advantage of me. She would borrow some of my belongings, but never return them to me until I had to ask her or just take them back myself.

Once, she used up almost all of my apple sugar scrub, and the container was about half full when I let her borrow it. I'm sure she'd have used up the whole tub had I not asked her to return it to me.

She and her three close friends always asked me to drive them to the grocery store, and didn't always thank me or show any appreciation for the favors I was doing for them. I also drove them to Atlanta, GA from Gainesville, FL for an anime convention; my car was almost packed to the roof with all the stuff we bought, and on each drive they wanted to listen to their favorite music the whole way (we don't exactly share the same musical tastes). I nearly had a meltdown after I found out that I would have to sleep in extremely close quarters and share a room with about 11 or 12 other people. It was embarrassing.

I lent her a pair of sandals which my cousin in China bought for me, and even though she had her own shoes, she wore my sandals exclusively for a few weeks. My friends all wondered why she all of a sudden started wearing a new pair of sandals and stopped wearing her own shoes.

Oh yeah, and after I accidentally left my landline phone in the room after check out last year, she somehow lost it. She told me that she may have just tossed it out with some of her unwanted belongings. I know it's not her fault I forgot to pack the phone, but shouldn't common courtesy require that she at least keep it until I'm able to retrieve it?

So after all that, I'd safely say that I'd been taken advantage of quite a few times. I trusted her too much. Who was I to expect everyone to be trustworthy and fair?

Yes.
I feel I have been taken advantage of more than my full share of times. I am such a sweetie as my best friend would say and, it is hard sometimes to know a person's true intentions. Most of the times I was taken advantage of was either with money, or I was someone's personnal taxi. Just recently I drop someone out of my life, because all she ever did was use me for my car, and money. I have become hard and untrust worthy of everyone around me, because I want to stop the this cycle that I seem to fallen into, and stop getting hurt. The worse thing is my mom tells me I deserve it, if I let it happen, and that I should know better. I only trust maybe acouple people and they are friends I known for many years, and who have supported me. Pretty sad when you can't trust people.

I know all about being the personal taxi too