Do people with AS live happly ever after?

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Yeah i am not just asking about do people with AS get in releationships other things as well. Thanks for your comments, so really it can be done. You just have make it happen.

You can be happy, have a family, career... I have a husband, 2 boys, worked for about 25 years and now live in an amazing place in NZ I'm from UK. "But as Wadena says Quote:You have to work smarter and harder than everybody else.......just like every other issue that handicapped people face in life."

But I do wonder if things would of been different if I had know about having Aspergers as a young child, I do not feel it needs to be so hard for the next generation, embrace who you are and remember we are all born as unique individuals in this world, some of us are just a little more interesting and share traits with some of the greatest achieves to date.

A lot of books will discreetly tell you that people with AS suck at life and will need all this help just to get by, and if they're lucky they may even thrive! They're slandering us for a profit and that always killed me and made me wonder how I could stop this without taking away their right to free speech. It isn't true at all and I think we should class-action them for libel. I'm serious.

I'm 18 and was diagnosed (AS) as early as 4 years ago. I've never been in a relationship. I'd like to have one eventually, but I find it hard to imagine anyone putting up with me. Maybe when I go to college I'll get a better outlook on things... people here have a hard enough time understanding me on a daily basis.

All I can say is that for me, it could take a while.

I believe that anyone can be happy if the strive for it.
Marrige? sure. Kids? sure. AS or NT...it's possible.

I guess a bigger question is whether or not anyone does, lol. I mean, I've met plenty of NTs who appear to have it all, but when you find out more about what is going on, they are more miserable than when they were alone.

I mean, of course it is possible for Aspies, just as possible as it is for everyone else. Looking at the social aspect of it, sure it seems it would be less likely to a lot of people, but really, most relationships anymore seem to be rather random... it's just a matter of finding the right person or them finding you.

Does anyone really find true happiness, maybe its how we perceive it or the media portrays it that confuses us all..

As as Chuck says "It's possible - if you are willing to embrace who you yourself are, and forget fantasies, preconceived notions, family expectations, and societal norms. "

Do we all want what everyone else seems to have !

What is happy ever after to one would be totally different to another, as no 2 people are the same - my best advice is find someone who has the same dreams life goals as you and share that journey...l

"The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind."

My husband has Asperger's. We've been married 13 years (together 16).

2 of our 3 sons have Asperger's.

Our marriage went through an extremely rough patch. But after the kids were diagnosed I worked out my husband has Asperger's. We've adapted our expectations of each other and are now very happy.

By the way, check out this video. The lead singer of The Vines has Asperger's. Go Australian music.


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Helen

Your welcome, something I need to work on also.

I think that everyone can live happily, ever after, if they're married to the right person.

I plan to.

Y'know, there's an interesting pattern I'm sorta picking up with AS- it's true: you don't choose your friends, they choose YOU. Well, it appears they same applies to ROMANCE. My g/f choose me- and I love her; she's wonderful. Do I have a difficult time, sometimes, reciprocating my love for her? Yes- remember, an Aspie trait IS to have the overall emotional stigma of the Terminator, but it's something she and I are working out- and she knows I love her.

Of course Aspies can live "happily ever after". Remember- what you see on TV is "Hollywood magic"- real love isn't like that.

Also remember that most "normal" people take love for granted, cause this stuff comes so easily for them. We don't- so what little love we can show is that much more appreciated, and we DON'T take our relationships for granted, either, 'cause of it.

I'm happy, and I'm one of those "poor" individuals who constantly sways, has learning disabilities, and doesn't talk to anyone out there. I'll be happy till the day I die too. I only lose my happiness when I try to be "normal" for others; I don't wish to be normal, and in the end, I'm incapable of doing such anyway. Therefore, I'll be selfish and live how I wish to, not how society wants me to; they're the ones who make me unhappy.