Do you feel uncomfortable around people with AS?

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Besides my brother, and someone when I was 15, I have never met another AS person. I suppose on here it is easier to talk to them as they understand you better. But in person, in some ways or situations it could be worse than talking to an NT. I imagine it could be like taking two mirrors and pointing them towards each other, at first it looks like you can see forever (you think you can relate), but soon you realize you arn't getting anywhere (everythings the same and there is nothing fresh to talk about). Also if one person is nervous and does not know what to say, and the other person is too, its also like that mirror in the way it amplifies both the same things out into infinity, so one person is like nervous eh, then the other person is like nervous ahh, then ehhhh and the ahhhhhhh and then there is way to much anxiety so you need an NT to sorta break the ice. Hmm that was quite the analogy.

Perhaps we are like NT's who are uncomfortable in silence. Well I can be silent at home or driving in the car with a good friend enjoying the scenery. But if I go to an AS meeting I don't want to sit and have a staring off into space contest with the rest of the attendees. But it is humorous that mild Aspies have that urge like NT's to want to be talked to when they meet new people. I don't even have to do the talking I just like listening. I'm not one to lecture for a hour on my obsession. Yeah I might post about it on here, but I won't speak that long. Actually I have trouble with spoken communication after my head injury so I lose track or can't even think of the right words if I have to speak. Course I can type for hours which is also humorous in a way.

I've noticed this too; I've met about 3 people in my life who are probably AS and both of them are very hard to talk to, especially before I heard about AS. As someone has already said, it's because the onus is on us to be the NT's. It really does highlight how much a sliding scale autism is.

There is a strange sense of power though, in befriending another friendless person whose skills are even worse than yours; I've done it twice and both times felt like Dr Frankenstein (although I'm still on more or less speaking terms with my 'creations'). To get to know them though, I used tactics that other people have used on me to draw me out of my shell. It feels a bit odd, like you're shifting places with your more social friends, but it's good to have the perspective.