Does anyone here feel "grateful"

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I never said I wasn't egotistical, SB2.

Nope, no gratitude here. I've felt it maybe once or twice in the past year, and that's progress for me. Thaking is just a custom for me, I never really for grateful.

There are times when i have profusely thanked someone about something they did, only because of how outrageous whatever they did is. I dont really feel grateful. I just think that they need to be thanked another 7 to 12 times.

I'd argue that feeling grateful is pretty useless on its own unless you can actually do something in return. But showing that you recognise their help is useful, I think, so I say 'thanks' when I remember to do so

I feel almost guilty if a person does something for me. For example, I "help Write" some stuff for people from time to time. I like to call it Ghost Writing on a Tech school level.... anyhow, people want to pay me, or reward me for helping. I dont help for a reward. I help because it makes my mind have to work at something, and for that I feel like scuz for taking anything in return. I feel blessed for the gifts bestowed upon me sometimes. I think thats different. But I dont know how many "thank you's " are expected when someone helps me out of a bind, or what ever. I always feel like I owe them something....

As far as missing people... At first I do. but then After a day or two, I forget. When someone dies, I move on though. My greiving isnt as drawnout and I feel kinda guilty that I wanted that person back just to ask a question, or something else that would benifit me. Im not cold. I just dont greive the same. Animals are different. I greived a long time for my kitty "Coon-Kitty". Other animals I didnt as much. And I still miss her to this day.

Gratitude is abstract.
I am happy that people have helped me or given me things.
I am glad that events have occurred.
I think this is gratitude, so yes.

I do not remember to say thank you sometimes because I do not often feel gratitude in the sense that I have described. Sometimes the feeling is very small and that makes me forget. Other times I think the gratitude is associated with some feeling of relationship with the person who has helped or given me something. If I know or perceive that the person's intent was good, then I do feel it. Then it doesn't matter if the gift sucks or the help was wrong. So I am able to say thank you, though not with the same feeling as when I am truly grateful.

I have a friend who has helped me understand and is helping me come to terms with a very difficult situation. Gratitude describes how I feel about the fact that she is in my life and the help she has given me. I have no problem remembering to express my gratitude.

I am grateful to my mother for helping me in spite of the terror that I was as an adolescent. I am able to express this to her. It is harder to say thank you when she buys me something I don't want or need, like a microwave oven. So not with the same feeling.

I am grateful for WP and the moderators and all of the people here who have supported and challenged me. I am able to say thank you.

I guess the bottom line is, it depends. I will not say thank you if it is a lie.

I tend to forget about people. I thought it was an autistic thing long before AS was considered. After 6 months, I encountered the woman I had spent 10 years with and didn't immediately recognize her.
I have been in what I thought was love any number of times and remember the names of all the people, but often not what they look like.

I am not sure what is the difference between thank you and warm thank you. I don't think mine are warm because people generally do not perceive me to be warm.

Yes, I don't think mine are often very warm. Especially the less spontaneous they are.