The social stigma of males who seek counseling

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ToughDiamond
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01 May 2009, 4:58 am

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The wealthy readily seek any assistance that will maximize their well being and maintain their social status. The poor and the middle class are told to subject themselves to cruel labor policies which work to dehumanize the individual. Thus, something like good therapy is deemed elitist and/or socialist and thus forbidden.

The class thing is active in the UK also....even Relate now charge £50 per hour, with just a £10 discount if you can prove your income is below £20,000 per year. The fees used to be entirely voluntary. I can see why they had to start serious charging (voluntary fees = no money to hire the rooms = no service), but they've lost something in the process.

Mind you, I've seen decidedly working-class people in the waiting room. I guess it's amazing what the agony of a faulty marriage can drive a man to, if he's still got an atom of sense in his noggin after his Daily Star-reading peer group have done with him. But I shouldn't generalise. I've met some very enlightened proles, and although I've always gravitated towards the middle class for their more sensitive, informed opinions, I am and always will be working class at heart.

Slightly off-topic, but I felt somewhat "Big Brothered" when I saw the information-sharing waiver forms and heard the screening questions which were clearly done to flag up potential child abusers, drug abusers, etc.......again I see the point, but it's sad to see the old confidentiality principle blown out of the water. Looks like I gave up cannabis in the nick of time.



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01 May 2009, 8:49 am

Yes, I agree with this. As a female, it's acceptable - almost expected - for me to become anxious and emotional and want/need support (in fact, it sometimes seems as if I'm expected to be more emotional than I actually am). I am immediately awarded more sympathy simply because of my gender. If I was male, I would be expected to, basically, just 'suck it up' and stop complaining until I was in a considerably worse state.

It's correct that the suicide figures for men are much higher. Depression/anxiety figures are reportedly higher for women - but I wonder if this is simply because, as we say, women are more free to admit that they're depressed and ask for help? For every woman treated for depression, are there another two men who suffer in silence until they finally turn to suicide?