I want my Asperger's Obsessions back, Darn it!! !!

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hello Millie ...everyone.

I believe its accupuncture that has taken my obsessions away. I still get high tho the many years obsession and manic pace I require in the workshop is not quite what it was, perhaps its the result of some of the duff projects I've pursued.

People here on WP are so bright and erudite!

The shell analogy with obsession is very apt, thats exactly how its functioned all my life, take my specialism away and I am lost (naked), its a raft, its a shell.

I co-incidentally paint (abstracts) as well as some small scale sculptural work ... as a personal thing and have no desire to publicise them... its very much in the eye of the beholder.

I learnt early on that my reading was beyond theirs .. perhaps I dwell among dummies .. very little contact here with anyone so speaking to people hardly arises. When you have me on a special interest or my business activity I am very good.... as an ordinary social person i am zilch. Strange how with some people socially I am okay yet with my wifes friends i am as nothing.... bunch a s**ts.

Its late and the keyboard has been drinking...

I also think Tahitii's shell analogy is very good. I am nothing without obsessive interests.
And these change. So I change.
I look back on my life and problems have always arisen for me when I have tried to adhere to the special interest beyond its "use-by" date. The intensity and duration of an obsessive interest is independent of me. It fuels me and I must go along with it. When I attempt to control this process, the proverbial s**t hits the fan. I must go where the interests go. They lead me. I follow.

THere is also a strange thing that happens in me. When my special interest becomes "contaminated" by the real world, problems also arise. THe purity really is in the privacy, and that is just how it is for me. Unlike many other artists i know, I have always found an audience to be somewhat superfluous, but necessary (because everyone else said they were!)

I am not so erudite and happy. I try to stay positive and a trying to exercise a lot more of late in order to maintain a good endorphin level because of my co-morbid depression.

I am 47, feel like a loser, have achieved very little in comparison to my skills, and for the most part I get down and annoyed by all the luddites roaming the world who fair so much better than I do with life and living.

But I am learning not to loathe the luddites and that is a good thing. THey cannot help who and what they are, even if they are meanies and ignorant at times.
And I am learning to find some joy in my ordinariness.

really? i'm jealous--i wish i could rid myself of every obsession that i have currently and never have an obsession ever again. i don't see it as passion in a positive light so much as as something i should NOT be doing--people tease people who are too fixated with these sort of things, and i feel guilty about being fixated. obsessions prevent me from pursuing other potential interests, so i'm limited in what i can talk about with other people.

have always been very grounded real world things, usually needing lots of technical or art books to read and memorise.

in my prev post by 'bright' i mean intelligent, uk usage here.

Millie mentions lots that are true to me, depression is always a problem, or could be if i didn't fight it. i think controlling foods is essential for me and more importantly who i meet, its important i control my inputs. All the difficulties I still carry (which i hope are receding) stem from school as a child. Hence the need for a controlled life. Recently in late Nov a gardening customer who is a nasty woman rang back on a upbeat call i made to get some work done at her place and really was nasty and dark, doing something that really triggers me .... criticised my work. The gardening is a day a week sideline thro the summer, i think it was that that depressed me till a week ago. She can go to hell. She has no idea who she is dealing with, both in the level i work at and my mental /psyc profile.. stuck for the right words on this one. She is a manic depressive tho without my light and positive side. .. s**t .... i'm rambling here ...

I too gain little joy from introducing my work to others, i sell product worldwide yet am not too 'into' customers. If i sell something major then i get some bizz, i suppose 25yrs plus at it takes the excitement away. I generate my own high ie learning, countryside, and also being able to work at the level i do (speed and ability).

I can feel very quickly my o/c nature kicking in here on this thread, possibly because what should occupy me is not too hot with me right now. indecision is rampant as is the difficulty of knowing how to deal withthe Xmas period. some nights i've done little more than stare at the screen, even too self concious to browse much online. wife in the next room with her library books and tv.

JOY!
When I first commented on this thread I was totally in a rut, with no decent obsession for ages. Since then I have rediscovered my obsessive side and am now totally immersed in something AWESOME, and best of all, PRODUCTIVE! (I think if something is not productive, the practical and responsible side of me will never let me truly obsess like I did when I was a kid..) *happycry* It IS possible to get it back!

Why is it that we're made to feel like obsessions are something bad when this world offers little else to occupy us while we're here?

It's not fair that others get to enjoy what they like without it getting some kind of negative label attached to it. I miss my obsessions.

I've not read through this thread properly but I think I get the gist of it.

Art was a big obsession of mine from the ages of 3-12. I'd draw and draw for hours. I was so good at drawing Simpsons characters that I could create my own scenes from just imagining them. The same with The Lion King when I was 8 or 9.
Now I can draw at an average level. I suppose if I get bored today I'll give it another shot.
From 13-16 I was into skateboarding, then in my late teens got into music and photography.
I've been bored with photography but it's the only way I've been able to make money or get out of the house so it's something I've had to force myself to stick with. At this moment I still love it, it's just been hard to get work with it.
Fantasy, story writing, minerals, astronomy and the Castle Age app on Facebook are still strong obsessions of mine.

And FarmVille.
Dumb as it is, I find it to be therapeutic.
Does anyone want to be my neighbor?

I've noticed my ability to remember things related to films, years of production, age classifications, actors, actresses, trivia etc has declined a bit since coming to university. Though useless in much of my life except for seeming to drive people insane, I felt it was one of my only talents and now it seems to be going

I remember feeling quilty because I wasn't as obsessed with meerkats as usual one day. I found "boosters" to give the obsession an "emergency supliment" but also learned that just because I'm not feeling as obsessed as usual dosen't mean I am not obsessed with them. If you are despete to get the obsession back, you still have it. Don't be so hard on yourself, it will come back. if you let it.