What is it like meeting another aspie?

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I've met at least five in my life. They had different severities. The two who were on the mild side were both sadistic toward me so I ruined their lives for a while and made them beg me to stop and they stopped when I told them not to be a sadist.

I think those two could be psychopathic.

If you "ruined their lives for a while" it makes you just as bad as them.

I agree with the MONKEY. (Sorry, I like saying it that way )

like ships passing in the night - each going their own way, neither acknowledging the other's existence nor even curious.

I don't know

I'm guessing it'd be like everyone else, but only more* asocial.

*If that's even possible

Having met and known over 20 Aspies at my college, I can say that it's just like meeting an NT- only that they might understand your Aspie-ness better.

Though despite them knowing your aspieness better, that doesn't nesseserily make them automatically a better friend than an NT would be; as the thing about Aspergers is that it's on a spectrum and everyone is individual, thus there are NTs who I've found much more in-common with than certain Aspies.

You might have already met quite a few and not realized it. Um... old thread, huh?

He claimed you can't be together because of YOUR mom, while his was doing the exact same thing? Sounds like maybe his mother is controlling him in ways, and he thinks your mom is doing the same to you? Or that maybe he just cannot get away from her at this point to talk to you anyway, even if he wanted to. I had an x like that. His mom was nice to me at the start, started getting meaner and meaner, we moved out of that city. Well, one day, we had a fight, he went back to mommy, and mommy decided he wasn't allowed to call and ask anything about the baby when it was born, or contact with me in any way. Shortly after, she made up lies to DFS to attempt to get me in trouble. When it didn't work, she kicked him out of her house.

Very very very bizarre stuff was going on with them, and I haven't heard again. I'm glad, because while it would be nice to maintain a civil relationship with her and all, the second I got involved it would turn into a nightmare.

I dont know... its still too vague for me to grasp (that ad slepy time meds are working.

I'm pretty sure thet two guys I work with are on the spectrum. One even has a doctors prescription to wear tinted saftyglasses and always has a baseball cap pulled low on his head because the lights bother him. I think there both cool people but we never seem to understand each other or have anything to say. Outside work it might be different. We seem to talk to more normal people than to each other.
I wished that there would be more commonground between us but it seems like the people I get along with the best are the extroverted easy going type. Even with them though I end up wishing they would leave me alone a lot of the time.

It depends on what kind of people they are.

I've met 20 or so fellow aspies through support groups and the speaking sessions I do, and I even serve as a mentor to a few of them.

There's such a range with people on the spectrum as there is with NTs: the only difference is that sometimes their eccentricies are more pronounced. For example, some people might dress a bit "off", some may have tics or stims, some may be intensely tied to their interests, some may be very shy or awkwardly social, or in between. I even know some aspies who come across as completely NT, until they start talking about their experiences. As for pursuing a friendship with an aspie: it really depends on the person and whether you find some common ground.

I've always wanted to meet someone with AS or any autism. It's like they speak their own language, I've heard. You must speak and understand it in order to communicate with them. A little bit like me.

I think I got really lucky with how I met my boyfriend...
I met him online about 5 years ago and knew right away, just by the way he talked, that we fit somehow.
We were really awkward when we first met in person, but we worked it out somehow and ended up dating.
He's my first boyfriend and most likely the only one I'll have because I've never met anyone else that I could communicate with such ease and comfort.

Neither of us have been diagnosed officially, but I joke with him about it often and he seems to think it's possible that we have Aspergers. His parents tell him to look around at other girls so he can be sure that I am what he wants. They don't understand that we have never connected with other people this way

Being able to talk to someone without faking 90% of what I say is awesome But it also helps that we have similar personalities... I'm pretty sure my sister and dad have AS (and we get along fine), but we have different personalities. My mom doesn't have AS and drives me up the wall but that's another story

If you forced them to beg you to stop being a horrible human being to them, you're worse than them.

From my experience, it's not any different from meeting anybody else.