Just how naive is an aspie supposed to be?

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Hey Amber Eyes, the same issues that you find puzzling now would have also confused me in the past. If you're interested in figuring out human social dynamics you gotta know the evolutionary psychology of humans.
Basically because females (of all species) have few reproductive cell and males have many, the females have to select their mates and test their value which can show itself as a "vetting system".

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That's interesting.

I've read a little about this.
I've probably read more behavioural and Biology textbooks than were good for me.

The thing is though, I don't think that the "average Joe in the street" needs to have read all of these text-books in order to be socially spontaneous with people. The "average Joe" can initiate a conversation without analysing all of the behavioural and biological mechanics involved. Actually, how the "average Johanna" behaves is very different from how the "average Joe" behaves. I wonder about "equality". How can there ever be "equality" if everyone's different? Maybe it's naive to expect people to all "sit round in a circle" and cooperate.

Most "normal" people don't need to have studied a course in Human Evolutionary Pyschology in order to converse with other human beings. They just converse automatically and don't question what they do.

Why would someone question something or analyse something that comes automatically to them on "social autopilot"?

Reading textbooks has helped me understand why humans might do the things they do behaviourally. This kind of information is useful for analysing human group interactions at a distance. However, none of the books seems to explain how I should go about initiating a conversation.

I also notice that most of the articles in the textbooks about Human Social Psychology and Sociology are written by men. None of the men explain how women talk to each other because they probably assume (incorrectly) that all women chatter naturally to each other all time with no problems at all.


So, I'm in a quandary as to what I should do.

Do I need a chaperone?

Do I need make a mutual protection pact with a group of very patient women and have them walk me through every social encounter?

Do I need to be shunted from place to place by a group of women, to prevent myself from being attacked by a stranger?

Or should I just stay at home and not risk going out?


Actually, maybe I need a dog...