Eye contact - I think I scare people

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TheSunAlsoRises

I also make people uncomfortable, with "eye contact". Not sure what it is but suspect it is to do with the fact that if I make eye contact, the person has my undivided attention - which doesn't often happen with NTs. They look at each other, to be polite, but they don't actually make "eye contact".

I can talk, ad nauseum, about things that interest me, as well - which actually makes the "polite" and "petty" eye contact sort of obvious. They appear to be "making eye contact", but their eyes are just sort of "dead"..

I think there is more "depth" to "eye contact" than is actually understood. I've experienced a sort of "locking" eye contact during which my thoughts and the thoughts of the other person sort of "run together". It's actually pretty cool, but so few NTs actually engage in "real" eye contact that it's difficult to examine.

NTs trivialize so many things with their idea of "manners" - i.e. fakeness - that "normal" society is actually a pretty shallow pool. Which, for me, equates to "no fun". Hence, "avoid eye contact". At all costs. It just invites fake, social interaction.

Edit to add: I also find your (WaveFreak's) art very enticing! Beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with us!