Can people with AS socialize well with other Aspies?

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Yeah. I tend to get on well with other Aspies.

It's the same for me. I am still shy around them and still afraid about saying the wrong things. Aspies can still get upset and hold it against you if you accidentally offend them despiting them knowing you have AS. But then I open up more when I feel comfortable.

Then I have met another aspie and he was a big talker and wouldn't let me speak so I had to interupt to get a word in edgewise and guess who he reminded me of? Me. That's why I have gotten better at letting people speak. Then I have an autistic friend who is like that too.

Then my ex aspie mate we got on well.

Then I have met one aspie from here and he doesn't say much so I am doing most of the talking.

Yep, I've experienced that first-hand.

I've only talked to one person with Asperger's in person, but it wasn't for very long and I was fairly comfortable with that person, so I wasn't very nervous or anything. But I think that if I met someone with an ASD in person, than it wouldn't be as difficult for me to communicate, since we would most likely understand the problems each of us faces, and would hopefully be understanding of problems communicating. At least that's how I feel in theory.

The poll for this topic isn't done very well...

But in response to the question posed: I get along exceptionally well with autistics and not so well with neurotypicals. I think some of the awkwardness autistics have with other autistics relates to the fact that they're used to dealing with neurotypicals.

It varies from my experiance. Ive been able to really talk to some aspies and not talk as smoothly to others. If other aspies cant communicate very well, its sometimes hard. Sometimes Im kinda shy in that I dont wanna start up a conversation. Ive learned aspies can vary quite a bit from being in 2 different aspie groups.

Same here, that is why I have gotten this way around them too. I also feel that having someone knowing you have AS is pointless, same as if they have it themselves if this is going to happen.

I frequent a communal driven drop-in centre for adults with Aspergers. The way I come along with the others is great, and I experience that it is general for the people who come there.
The place is open Monday to Friday 4 pm to half past 8 pm (or h.p. 9 pm on Fridays). We prepare and eat dinner together and make different activities on different days, eg. jamsession, going for a walk, or we just hang out. We tend to have some really interesting, nerdy, hairsplitting and hilarious conversations.

There are social workers working at the place. They also are our support persons (not sure what to call them in English). That means that you have one or two who are your support persons (I have one), and they come home to you, say, twice in a week for 1½ an hour or so. The support can be different, but is about what you need support to especially. For me, my support person has helped me getting into a course to try my working ability. The result was that I wouldn't be able to hold an ordinary, full-time job, but I have then been awarded the right to get a flexjob, that means that the commune pays you for the hours you can't work.
Or you can talk to your support person about the challenges you deal with in your life with Aspergers. Or s/he can help you with structuring your everyday life with chores and such (I talk a lot with my support person about that), or help you with your economy or follow you when you are going to talk to some authorities of a kind.

Yes, long story I know. But it's something I really appreciate.

I am going to say yes. Since we understand each other, they understand we don't use eye contact, etc.